Comments on: Unstructured time before an event: the worst time for an introvert http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert Fri, 18 May 2012 00:44:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Fabrice http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-4654 Fabrice Tue, 06 Sep 2011 06:32:26 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-4654 Just so you know, introverts are great writers. They may not be able to say it the "right way" but they definitely "write" it the best way. Never mind what others say about introverts lacking the confidence in almost about everything, they don't. They actually find it a waste of time socializing with others when they can do something relevant minus the chitchat..how's that for a comment? Just so you know, introverts are great writers. They may not be able to say it the “right way” but they definitely “write” it the best way. Never mind what others say about introverts lacking the confidence in almost about everything, they don’t. They actually find it a waste of time socializing with others when they can do something relevant minus the chitchat..how’s that for a comment?
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]]> By: An introvert in college – how to survive and even thrive! — Introvert Zone http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-4552 An introvert in college – how to survive and even thrive! — Introvert Zone Fri, 02 Sep 2011 02:33:26 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-4552 [...] Are you really lonely and longing for friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend?   Those things will come, but you should be in places where new friends can find you.   Try joining some casual activities that don’t require a lot of social “overhead.”   Do things where you can actually DO something instead of having to stand there making small talk.   If you’re an animal lover, go volunteer at the local shelter.  If you’d rather help build a robot, build a Habitat for Humanity, plant trees, or something else, find the group that’s doing that.  It’s so much easier to get to know others when you’re doing something instead of just trying to think of something to say. [...] [...] Are you really lonely and longing for friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend?   Those things will come, but you should be in places where new friends can find you.   Try joining some casual activities that don’t require a lot of social “overhead.”   Do things where you can actually DO something instead of having to stand there making small talk.   If you’re an animal lover, go volunteer at the local shelter.  If you’d rather help build a robot, build a Habitat for Humanity, plant trees, or something else, find the group that’s doing that.  It’s so much easier to get to know others when you’re doing something instead of just trying to think of something to say. [...]

]]> By: INTJ http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-4508 INTJ Wed, 31 Aug 2011 09:01:56 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-4508 How to deal with unstructured time is a big challenge for many introverts. But it's also tied into the J/P aspect of Meyers-Briggs, not just the introversion. J's are all about structure, so I think this is especially an issue for types like the INTJ. I know some INTP's who seem to have no problem at all with unstructured time and are quite happy to just chit chat. How to deal with unstructured time is a big challenge for many introverts. But it’s also tied into the J/P aspect of Meyers-Briggs, not just the introversion. J’s are all about structure, so I think this is especially an issue for types like the INTJ. I know some INTP’s who seem to have no problem at all with unstructured time and are quite happy to just chit chat.

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2395 IntrovertZone Sun, 29 Aug 2010 20:24:24 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-2395 Hey Erin, It's great that you're doing the retreats, and I hope you'll develop at least one good friend and find yourself talking effortlessly between those events sometimes. Oh but that book during the longer breaks is so delicious and refreshing, and that's a great way to take a break. Hey Erin, It’s great that you’re doing the retreats, and I hope you’ll develop at least one good friend and find yourself talking effortlessly between those events sometimes. Oh but that book during the longer breaks is so delicious and refreshing, and that’s a great way to take a break.

]]> By: Erin http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2383 Erin Sat, 28 Aug 2010 20:44:52 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-2383 Wow, glad I'm not the only one that feels this way about free time! I feel so useless during that time. Occasionally I'll find someone to talk to, but usually I just wind up standing around, running back to the water cooler to refill my drink a few times, and probably looking pretty foolish. I do retreats with a local church, and while I love the retreats, I hate all the unstructured chit-chat time that comes in-between the speakers and activities. I usually wind up going to my room and reading a book during the longer breaks, too. Wow, glad I’m not the only one that feels this way about free time! I feel so useless during that time. Occasionally I’ll find someone to talk to, but usually I just wind up standing around, running back to the water cooler to refill my drink a few times, and probably looking pretty foolish. I do retreats with a local church, and while I love the retreats, I hate all the unstructured chit-chat time that comes in-between the speakers and activities. I usually wind up going to my room and reading a book during the longer breaks, too.

]]> By: xen http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-19 xen Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:17:17 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-19 Great article and so very true. I hate chitchat myself and I find it utter useless. It's not that everything have to be serious with me, but at least let's talk about something interesting and rewarding. :) I'm very strict with time, which annoys my wife a bit, but I do like your idea of coming late to avoid chitchat. Or as I like to call it, shitchat. I really hate being told it's fun and important to work the room. It's fun and important for that person, but not me. That's like telling someone is stupid because they still rather want to use Mac or Windows instead of Linux. Think it's called respect, right? ;) Great article and so very true.
I hate chitchat myself and I find it utter useless. It’s not that everything have to be serious with me, but at least let’s talk about something interesting and rewarding. :)

I’m very strict with time, which annoys my wife a bit, but I do like your idea of coming late to avoid chitchat.
Or as I like to call it, shitchat.

I really hate being told it’s fun and important to work the room. It’s fun and important for that person, but not me.
That’s like telling someone is stupid because they still rather want to use Mac or Windows instead of Linux. Think it’s called respect, right? ;)

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-7 IntrovertZone Wed, 29 Jul 2009 16:24:43 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-7 Hi Patricia! That ebook sounds great - I am looking forward to reading it. The 30 day span makes good sense. It narrows the time and available topics very well so we don't have to take so long to think about what to say. I definitely will visit your blog and look forward to learning some tips. Hi Patricia! That ebook sounds great – I am looking forward to reading it. The 30 day span makes good sense. It narrows the time and available topics very well so we don’t have to take so long to think about what to say. I definitely will visit your blog and look forward to learning some tips.

]]> By: Patricia Weber http://introvertzone.com/unstructured-time-before-an-event-the-worst-time-for-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-6 Patricia Weber Wed, 29 Jul 2009 14:17:31 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=50#comment-6 One of the tips I have blogged about and is in my upcoming ebook in detail is the 30 day rule for small talk. As an INTJ I like it because it affords me the structure to easily pull into a conversation something that sounds but isn't really personal. It involves sharing impersonal information about events or interests in your personal life during a span of 30 days on either side of today. In other words, tell people what impersonal events or interests have happened to you within 30 days before "the day" and what impersonal events and interests will occur within 30 days from "that day." Hope to hear more from you and do visit me where I blog business and sales tips for introverts. One of the tips I have blogged about and is in my upcoming ebook in detail is the 30 day rule for small talk. As an INTJ I like it because it affords me the structure to easily pull into a conversation something that sounds but isn’t really personal.

It involves sharing impersonal information about events or interests in your personal life during a span of 30 days on either side of today. In other words, tell people what impersonal events or interests have happened to you within 30 days before “the day” and what impersonal events and interests will occur within 30 days from “that day.”

Hope to hear more from you and do visit me where I blog business and sales tips for introverts.

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