Here’s a question from someone who would really like to date an introvert and wants to know if she should make a move – or if that will run him off forever!
Hi, I really like my introverted boss and am not sure how to let him know without scaring him away forever. I did get a fit of nerves for fear that I would never tell him how I felt and asked him if he would ever let me into “(insert fake name here)ville” as that is what he calls his inner world and he replied probably not. I don’t know if that’s because I asked him at the end of a night full of socializing including being at a noisy nightclub with a bunch of people, or if he really just doesn’t want me invading his walls with my borderline introvert/extrovert chaos.
I have a lot of introverted and extroverted tendencies, but I am intelligent and very good at what I do. This man is so unique that I spend a good deal of time defending him to the other people that we are currently away on course with. I like him because of his uniqueness such as his sense of humor, which not many other people understand as I think they are not smart enough to get it, the fact that he doesn’t need to be staring at hot women to affirm his manliness and the conversations we have together when we are alone are the most intellectually stimulating and challenging talks I’ve had with anyone for a long time.
He protects his private time ferociously which I understand, and occasionally will take the “Do not Disturb” off his door which I think means that he wouldn’t mind too much if I visited. His body language strongly suggests that he likes me, he often stands close to me, and will quickly glance at me when he thinks I don’t know. Am I crazy to think that I could have a future with someone as special as he is or should I let go of the heart ache now before I fall too deeply for him.
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