Comments on: Should introverts “force” themselves to do things with others?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 13:20:27 +0000

I’m “forcing” myself to do things these days. Otherwise I could literally die alone in my flat and no one would know except my employer (and only because I didn’t show up for work). If I died on vacation, no one would miss me really. I think it is sad.

I’m a loner, introvert and I’m quite happy with it. I take quite a long time to warm up to someone. The very rare occasions I click with someone, it eventually peters out to nothing …no more contact. I’m no longer a huge fan of sitting in bars/cafes drinking myself into a stupor cause it is a way to oneself occupied.

I force myself, cause even though I am a loner, it gets lonely. While the forcing doesn’t feel right, it’s either that or exist in solitude. Meh.

By: epikoo@windsurfing

epikoo@windsurfing — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 13:54:55 +0000

I think it depends on each person. If he feels OK by himself he can stay alone and do his thing. If he wishes to socialize he should try harder. Or he can simply keep his feelings for himself and play a role when he is out with other people…
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By: Sam@ Managed Hosting

Sam@ Managed Hosting — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 19:28:25 +0000

Home is where my heart is. I can’t wait most nights to get home from work and spread out of my couch. However, as much as I am introverted and love to stay in my own space- I have a roommate that is constantly around, and in some cases… annoying. I’ve been finding myself forcing myself out of the house just to avoid her. Sometimes I’m not necessarily doing something with other people, but I do make an effort to go out of the house. Do you think I should approach her or keep trying to things and use it as a force to?

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Does budgeting our people-time mean introverts are snobs? — Introvert Zone — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 19:00:44 +0000

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By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Sun, 23 May 2010 12:06:43 +0000

Thanks so much! Wow, I’m sorry to hear that about your manager! But I’ve found that a lot of people have a very negative idea about introversion so we just have to be more strategic about doing the things they want to “see” us do – vs. taking our refreshing retreats.

By: MalikMilan

MalikMilan — Sat, 22 May 2010 00:38:47 +0000

This article is great. Until being “diagnosed” as an introvert by my manager I thought I was weird or depressed because I don’t like to interact socially all the time. I find myself RSVP’ing yes to an invite but when its time to go I am never in the mood. While my manager has expressed being an introvert is something I need to overcome to advance my career, reading blogs like this and others and some research, has helped me to realize, that I am normal. I am an introvert and sometimes I just don’t want to be bothered I am tired of being “forced” to do things I don’t want. However you have tayght me something very valuable that was in my face that I didn’t realize, I don’t have to go to all the events but I need to be strategic about what I attend. Thanks so much.
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Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:56:15 +0000

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By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 18:04:12 +0000

I agree – and I totally understand.. since you’re married to someone who likes to go to things, of course you go with him for his sake. He wants you with him anyway, plus for some reason some people make an issue of it if one person of a couple comes to an event alone.

By: Kristi

Kristi — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 03:30:12 +0000

Being married, I don’t really have to force myself to go out and do things – I get forced instead. My husband is much more inclined to accept event invitations, and of course, wants his wife to be with him.

I really don’t think people need to force themselves to do things unless they are those kinds of events that could alter a relationship in work, family, or friends. Like company holiday parties are kind of mandatory, but happy hour at the bar isn’t. Weddings are important to friends and family, but the Superbowl party not so much.

~ Kristi
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By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:39:57 +0000

Hi Deb! Oh I totally empathize about not even wanting to go out and do the things you actually want to do! I want to do some things, but in my case a lot of it is that I want a certain amount of time at home… a LOT of time at home. So I don’t go on even the errands I’d sort of like, because then when I get home I’ve “lost” an hour or more of my blissful evening or weekend day. I think if I could work from home I’d do better in that department – would probably look forward to errands and some social occasions. However, if I ever DID have to go into the office for a meeting, I think I’d be so spoiled from working at home I’d dread office and meetings to a ridiculous extent.

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