Reader wonders if this is “hidden” introversion – or ambiversion


Thanks for a great resource! I’m actually a big proponent of the MBTI and score moderately (~33) as an E. However, in the last 2-3 years I am finding that my needs for recharging time alone have greatly increased. In certain situations where there is a lot of noise and people stimulate me and I can keep going for hours (I’m in a heavy metal band and LOVE performing, going to shows, networking, meeting people and fans and industry folks, etc) — I could talk to and with them all night with no alcohol or stimulants until it’s time to get pancakes at 7 AM. 🙂 I’d come home from those physically tired, but mentally / emotionally primed and happy. However, if I’m just hanging out in a large group of friends, I can get drained and sometimes annoyed after about 3-5 hours (many of them are VERY chatty and animated and it’s hard getting parity in the conversation sometimes) and I need alone / do-things-at-my-own-pace time to recharge. Once the batteries are re-charged, I’m jonesing for people to talk to. So would this be ambiversion?

Also, after a very stressful year for me, I’m needing more of this alone time as well. I understand that the MBTI model has emerged with auxiliary or “shadow” functions when one is under stress, but I don’t quite have a grasp of this theory yet. Any of you introverts find your way to introversion with this route, or was your introversion a part of you since you were a kid?

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  1. I believe I was born with it. I can’t **ever** remember a time when I didn’t want to “do things by myself.” And the thought of someone except my husband (and sometimes EVEN my husband) tagging along is distressing!

    When I was about 8, a childhood friend broke her arm, and her parents (of course) spent the night in the hospital with her (back then, people stayed in the hospital longer for stuff). I was appalled, and just hoped that if anything like that happened to me, I would be able to convince my parents to let me stay there alone (never broke an arm – OR went to the hospital, but I am sure they would have stayed there with me, much to my distress).
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  2. I’ve always been an introvert; however, my need to be alone has increased more and more as I get older. I used to enjoy spending time with close friends, but now even that can drain me. I’m not a hermit, but I am closer to being one than ever before.

  3. I, too, have been an introvert since… well, since I was born as far as I am concerned. I can only be away from home and around other people for so long before I’m exhausted. I even had difficulty going to a job that was away from my house, so I’ve completely switched directions so that my work may be done at home. I just got too tired too quickly when I was obligated to physically be somewhere. But I’ve always scored 100% introvert on the MBTI scale, so I really have a very low starting energy level when it comes to social interaction in the first place. It only takes a couple of hours for me to wear out, and afterwards I can go for a week or longer without spending time with anyone who is not my immediate family. It honestly does take me that long to fully recharge.

  4. Being introvert or not is not a choice unfortunatly. But I think we should make a difference between being shy and being introvert. Many introvert people have been great in the world, being an introvert can make famous artists the goal is to use and to know this to turn it as a power to reach the top.
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    • If reaching the top is of value. I have zero interest in “reaching the top,” though others might find it quite an attractive prospect.

      I use my understanding of my introversion as a way to manage my life. I don’t really expect other people (extroverts) to understand, so I don’t normally explain it to them…I just find a way to work with, through, and around them. Most of the time, they don’t know what hit ’em 🙂
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  5. They say an Introvert’s brain is wired differently than an Extroverts (increased blood flow, etc.) I was born an Introvert and had this discussion with my mother earlier today and she gave me many examples, as well as some of my own.

    Mother told me that even while I was a baby, I would not sleep (rarely even in her arms) until I was completely alone either in my room or in general.

    Growing up I would play by myself and not socialize much with other kids, just wander around.

    In third grade my teacher tried to have the school put me in special ed classes because I was reserved and very hard headed, wouldn’t do homework or take tests. She called a meeting with the principal and my mother to further discuss, they had me take the tests I wasn’t doing in class in front of them by myself and I aced all of them.

    High School, took a lot of art classes, still have a bunch of pottery and abstract art from back in the day. Didn’t care to make friends, just in and out. Didn’t go to Senior Prom although I had a few invitations from girls. Forced to go to my High School Graduation.

    College, again, didn’t care to make friends. Didn’t go to my College Graduation.

    I can spend weeks or even longer at home. Or go for a drive by myself and enjoy the Earth’s wonders. Basically do things in peace, alone.

    Highly energetic people and groups make me nervous and uncomfortable. Even though my best friend is probably the King of Extroverts. Haven’t seen him in about a month but we still talk here and there.

    I am self employed, work from home.

    These are just a small amount of examples. Don’t get me wrong, I do have a social life and go out from time to time, even (rarely) in groups. I’ve even started taking acting classes, just started my second one, I love it!

    If you’re wondering, I’m an INFJ.

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