Comments on: Love and the introvert

By: cb

cb — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 23:43:12 +0000

Hahaa….oh my! It really is good to know it though, instead of thinking something’s wrong with you or with your husband. This way you know when it’s time to say – “I need some ‘me time’!”

By: Harmony

Harmony — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:34:04 +0000

I just recently just found about myself ( better late than never) even though I knew I was different. Did some research ( I know I know thats what we do), Im a guardian. I m married to a extreme ex talking is his specialty Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha.

By: cb

cb — Sun, 23 May 2010 12:17:59 +0000

Hey Shannon – that’s awesome! It’s wonderful that he was able to look past all the fawning girls to the quiet one he wanted to get to know. You’re definitely doing something right – just being yourself! I hid your email address from your second comment so you wouldn’t get thousands of weird emails. I don’t have any specific advice. You’re a smart girl, and you’ll do great out in the “real” world!

By: Shannon Hamling

Shannon Hamling — Sat, 22 May 2010 02:12:08 +0000

Much like Mattheous here I stumbled upon your blog while browsing on google for articles on Introversion. See, I’m only 17 so I want to find out as much as I can before this introvert is thrown into the “real world”. Except that often times I feel I live more in the “real world” than a preponderance of the people around me.
This article in particular helped me with my boyfriend, I sent him the link, because he’s very much extroverted but he tries so hard to make me happy but me being me makes it hard to convey my thoughts to him. (they always just seem so alien.) He’s 20 a footbal player in high school and the girls swooning like crack addicts so by the time I met him, about a year ago, he’d had plenty of girls saying they loved him as soon as they saw him, but I didn’t, I refused. I was the quiet girl in the bowling alley, with my team, during class and the other girl threw herself at him, I was almost too shy too open my mouth, but somehow he took a liking to me. We’ve been together officially for eight months and I didn’t say ‘I love you’ until two months into it. He knows now that when I say that I love him I actually mean he’s my soul. LOVE is so limiting. Anyway thanks to this article we’ve learned a lot more about each other, or he’s learned more about me (I’m the observer.=]) So sorry I’ve wasted so much of your space I was just overwhelmingly extactic that I found your blog!
Thanks,
Shannon

By: Mattheous

Mattheous — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:36:12 +0000

…We’ll see. Sometimes I feel too much like The Doctor…

By: cb

cb — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:15:21 +0000

Hi Mattheous! I totally respect what you’re saying, and a quiet life with a Companion Parrot does sound nice! On the other hand, at this point please don’t get discouraged or rule out having someone in your life if you want to later. You’re going to meet all sorts of people at college and after you get out, and I really hope you’ll meet a cool girl who deserves you! Thanks so much for your comment, and please keep coming back to Introvert Zone.

By: Mattheous

Mattheous — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:34:14 +0000

I found your blog via Google, and this particular post really hit close to home for me. I’ve only ever ‘dated’ three girls, and they all ended up dumping me in the end–they also all never felt as strongly as I did about them. As you said in your post, each time it feels like a death. I’m a Sophomore Philosophy major in college, along with being an ISTJ Introvert, and having a kidney condition–needless to say, I don’t go out much. I’ve recently come to the conclusion that relationships just aren’t for me. In three years I’ll be out of college and in Grad school (an online course to become a Librarian), but I just don’t see myself with anyone at this point. The possible rejection hurts too much, and so does the end of the relationship–which, undoubtedly will follow.

I hope I’m not the only one who thinks that a quiet life with a Companion Parrot sounds nice!