Comments on: Introverts need time alone, but we can also get lonely

By: Chris C

Chris C — Sat, 05 May 2012 21:01:42 +0000

Sounds just like me; introverted with a desire to be creative, don’t like big parties , need to recharge. Funny it never occurred to me until well into my adulthood that there’s a class of people like that; before the internet they seemed invisible. You’d only hear the talkative people’s point of view

By: Anita@Brazilian Wax Video

Anita@Brazilian Wax Video — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 13:09:44 +0000

It is a remarkably thin line, isn’t it? We need more space, time and, well, space than others do but that needs to be finely balanced so as we don’t find ourselves alone more often than not. I struggle to articulate just how much I value my own time – I’ve been very fortunate to launch my site which has granted me time alone when things get too hectic and I need some peace, but at the same time, introverted or not, I need to know that those I love are still available to me.

Introverts can certainly get lonely. We’re introverts, not cold monsters who don’t need love, right!?

Anita x

By: Fran

Fran — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 04:13:55 +0000

I think that the biggest thing that helps me is humor, altho it is after the fact that everyone has finally went home, finally stopped calling and finally stopped complaining, and I finally escape to many days alone to centre myself, I resemble the Lady Madusa!! Rather than lil Cindrella that is merely happy with her Fairy God Mother and a few Church mice, LOL. I love people and believe in them which are my friends, family and enemies, but for the life of Me, I can not see why they do not believe in themselves for they are very predictable with the same unsolved issues each time we meet, and so I just rewind the recorder in my head for certainly it is inbedded from their previous conversations over and over and while they are complaining or insulting or both, I am saying mere words such as Wow, naw, oh you didn’t or OMG, for after all, it is their Story, they do not want to hear Mine because my lifestyle is so obsolete in their world, I am the loser and they are the winner’s so they say…. for as I mentioned earlier, it is totally in vain to give any Solutions, for after all, I am the Odd one with No life, They Think! We may as well have a Photographic Memory for We know each time basically the outcome that they do not even hear themselves and it is us that hear and listen and yep it can run the battery down, and then is when I am of the kindred spirit of Linda Blair and the crowning Epic screen Line on the Exorsist….my head is spinning round and round, tongue out, ranting and wanting so badly to say….”Get Out”…and a few more choice words that I won’t say on the Movie, LOL…..but, I end up suffering in silence as most of us do, to get any Peace….but the advantage of it is that I already know the forecast of it all when the phone rings, or door bell tings. So humor is my best defence in a very offensive world. I am very thankful for this Post and being able to give and receive feedback and we are not Alone, altho we love our alonement more and more and are an encouraging people. Namaste!

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 02:27:05 +0000

Well said Neil. I am also perfectly content (after finally figuring out who I am) to be “within” myself. Nothing wrong with that! Nothing wrong with us!

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 02:21:53 +0000

I would like to clear up something that a lot of people here don’t seem to understand– the word “anti-social”. I have a very clear, awful memory of a group of girls who used to harrass me in high school calling me “anti-social” because, in their eyes, I didn’t “socialize” enough or properly. The term “anti-social” is a term used to describe a person who is against society, often who wishes harm upon society, people like Timothy McVey and the Unabomber. These people have an actual mental illness. That does not describe me or most other introverted people. It is a very VERY different beast altogether. Please don’t use the word if you don’t know what it means. (just saying this in general, not to anyone here)

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 02:14:16 +0000

Why are people who are obviously not introverts and don’t have any concept of what it’s all about even on this website?

By: Chris C

Chris C — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 19:16:35 +0000

sorry, that last comment was @Fran

By: Chris C

Chris C — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 19:15:42 +0000

you’re right, it *can* be draining listening to extroverts keep talking , especially about their issues – it’s gpod to be supportive, but we must learn to keep the battery from running on empty.

Namaste.

By: Chris C

Chris C — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 19:03:47 +0000

that’s one of life’s mysteries – why some people seem to think everyone is (or should be ) just like themselves. Same values, same thoughts, same judgements.

By: Annette

Annette — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 12:20:38 +0000

It’s a matter of their ignorance, and I definitely hope a lot of people will learn something about what introversion is – and that as much as they may *wish* we had their same personality traits, we do not!
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