For the many years I didn’t know what an introvert was, I told people close to me that I guessed I was a “loner.” It was the only way I could describe the fact that although I might chitchat and joke around with others when we were all together, when it came time to run errands I enjoyed just taking off alone. It usually did not occur to me to ask someone if they wanted to come and look at [clothes, sofas, books, plants, cat food] with me. After all, I was the one who needed whatever it was, and I can definitely think better and make better decisions when no one is talking to me. As I’ve said before, I have a lot of great friends I’ve made over the years, and I really enjoy their company. But it’s just in my nature to head out on my own when I need to do something. For lack of a better term, I used the term “loner” to label myself quickly when people would express hurt at being left out of all the fun I was having. (Sadly, the news media and people who just don’t know any better often use that term to mean someone who’s actually antisocial: one who hates society and may even do active harm like mass shootings).
Although I need to be alone a certain percent of my time, and I have a blast when reading or doing other things on my own, I’m also capable of being really lonely. Once in a while I have found myself in a situation where I was alone for a weekend and wanted to do something with a friend but for some reason the ones I’d try to contact were unavailable. Maybe it was a holiday weekend or just a coincidence, but I have found myself alone on a weekend with no plans at all and realized I was terribly lonely. By late on a Saturday afternoon of such a weekend, I have actually been the one who’s raking or weeding in the front yard, talking to any and every neighbor who walks by, or walking a few miles, hoping I’ll run into someone I know as I go. When that happened, I wondered – am I not a loner like I thought? What happened to the woman who loves to run out alone to do her own thing? It just didn’t add up! The answer is, it’s not that I want to be alone all the time. I like people and enjoy them very much. I just can’t be with people all of the time. I am an introvert.
As an introvert, my battery has to be charged, just like the battery of a laptop. When the battery is fully charged, a laptop runs great and is quite valuable. No one would say a laptop is weird or bad because it has to be recharged. We simply learn that that is how laptops are designed so we make sure we charge them before we need them. Extroverts are more like basketballs. As long as someone is there doing something with them, basketballs have plenty of energy, which they get by being bounced by a person. When they are left alone, they aren’t bouncing anymore. No one would say that a basketball is useless just because it doesn’t jump off the shelf and bounce by itself. We understand that basketballs need people to give them the energy to go.
If you love to run errands alone or love to eat lunch at your desk at work or anything else like that, don’t let anyone make you feel as if you are “odd” or “aloof” or worse still, “antisocial.” If you recharge your batteries best when you get some time alone, you are most likely an introvert, and just knowing that is so awesome and explains so much. Now you know why you start feeling anxious in a long meeting or when house guests won’t leave. That feeling is totally expected for introverts, and now you’ll know that you need to break away – alone – in order to feel and function at your best. Likewise now you can understand why you may feel lonely today, when it was just yesterday you were craving some time alone. Introverts are normal human beings (despite what you may have heard) 
and of course we need others. In fact we form very strong and deep connections, when we find people we really like and like to be with. Once we understand our needs for companionship vs. solitude, we can come closer to the right balance where we get plenty of blissful and refreshing alone time, yet we never get all the way to lonely.
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I can totally relate to that, I’ve found my self in that same scenario many times. I went through the same thing of not understanding that I was an introvert.
I love your analogy of the laptop and the basketball. I am definitely stealing that one…fair warning.
I can relate to it. I started to notice my “mood changes” when I started working. I never could figure out why I acted the way I did until I noticed there was a pattern. I notice the more time I am around ppl I want to run away. Then when after a sufficant time alone, I want to go out. The lap top analogy is great by the way.
You were smart to notice that pattern, and that gave you the ability to have some control over when/who you spend that people-energy. Thanks – I was trying to tell a friend that I am an introvert, and from the look on her face I was telling her that I am a psycho. I finally used the laptop analogy with her so she’d realize there are many things in life that can be out in the world for a while then need to go recharge!
Deep…I remember watching my sister leave with her friends going to a party while I stayed home. Felt a little down…not only because she was going somewhere, but because she got to hang out with different people. If I wasn’t hanging out by myself, I was always hanging out with the same person. Cool, but felt as though I was still alone.
Hi Miyuki, I know what you mean. Sometimes while we’re doing things alone, just enjoying our alone time, maybe we’re missing some chances to meet other people who’d add some variety to life. It’s a tough balance sometimes, because if you get too many friends/acquaintances, then that’s that many more people to split your people-energy between. By middle age though, everyone gets plenty of other commitments, so it’s a bit easier to see each friend just once in a while.
Miyuki, I know the feeling. I’ve started wondering if it’s an initiating thing. I long for the weekend where I don’t have to go to work, be around people, etc. I don’t make plans with anybody. (I’m new to this part of the country so only know a couple people.) Then when I hear my friend went out Saturday night — two blocks from my house — it pinches a little that I was not invited. Is it that she knows I cherish my time alone so she doesn’t want to intrude; or is it that I should say “Do you want to do something this weekend?”
Sometime I feel like I’m missing out on thing too but you just have to find a balance of alone time and time w other people. In reality though, your not missing all that much…that why I text ppl to keep in touch but I get my time alone as well.
Aloneness and loneliness are two very different things. Aloneness can be a very inspiring state to be in. It’s where we recharge and our best ideas flow. It’s where we take a step back out of our lives and gain more awareness of ourselves.
Just need to balance the time when we feel lonely!
Hi Andrew! Oh yes. A good aloneness can be total bliss, a quiet but real happiness that no one but an introvert could understand. Especially when it’s a case of “FINALLY alone!”
We definitely just have to balance it.
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To be honest, sometimes I think that I just don’t like people, all that much. I can get annoyed very easily by other people, especially with extroverts, and the more extroverted someone is is the more annoyed I get by that person. I just really can’t stand them and they don’t understand me, so after cold shouldering them for a while, they stay way, which is just fine by me. I don’t like feeling imposed upon by anyone, and extroverts can quickly get very imposing because many of them are overly familar and lack boundaries, meaning your business is their business and they make your business everyone else’s business because of lack of discretion. You tell one of them that you are going to use the bathroom and by the time you get back, ten other people know that you were just in the bathroom. I worked with a couple of this type, at a former job, and I ended up disliking the both of them because of their personalities. I felt like yelling at them “Mind your own damn business and leave me alone!”. One of them was just way to familar, and the other one was trying to act like my mother until I lashed out on her and threatened to write her up to management on a regular basis. Just too much to deal with. I’ve learned that I can tolerate other people in small doses but I can’t be around other people for too long. I can converse and have a laugh and I might have things in common with someone, but I can’t be around that person for too long.
I don’t mind doing things by myself. Many times I have gone shopping alone, which was better for me since I take a long time to make decisions about what I want, so if I did go with someone, that person would probably get annoyed with me. I don’t mind going to see a movie, alone, either. It might feel wierd walking into the theatre alone, when other people are going with a group, but once I’m sitting down, it doesn’t really matter, since everyone is at the theatre to do the same thing, which is to watch the movie. And even if someone was thinking that it is weird to see someone sitting alone or doing something alone, that person isn’t very likely to voice that opinion unless he or she is rude and lacks discretion, which some do, but most keep their mouths shut and keep moving. And if he or she was to say something, my response would be, “It’s none of your business, so leave well enough alone.” That’s not something that I would have said in the past, but I have gotten to the point where that’s what I will say if someone is nosey. It might sound mean, but sometimes people need to know how to leave other people, alone.
I will also say that there have been a couple of people that I really liked and wanted to get to know because I just found them to be very interesting people. Plus, being around them made me laugh and wear a natural smile on my face, which I don’t do all the time. I also felt very comfortable around them and wanted to share my thoughts, feelings, and concerns with that person. In the words of Anne Shirley, he or she would be a “kindred spirit”. But finding someone like that has been a rare occurence for me, as I guess it would be.
Hi JW. Oh yeah, we’ve all been there with the nosey people and people who impose on us, and it is really annoying. And when you have annoying coworkers or classmates, it leaves you so tired of defending your space and your energy all day you can hardly put up with other people who would otherwise be pretty cool!
I hope you meet some more kindred spirits soon. They are rare enough, but I’m still finding them out there.
I LOVE going to movies by myself! I get the experience of the movie and the popcorn, but don’t have to converse with anybody!
I also LOVE going to restaurants by myself. I always feel just a tad awkward saying “Yes, just one,” but once I’m seated and into my magazine, it’s blissful. I can only do this when I have something to read though — without it, it would be way too awkward.
JW: That’s one long post! And I definitely know what you mean about people just acting a little too familiar with you. It’s pretty annoying!
cb: Thanks for understanding. It’s alienating to be introverted/quiet as it is. Each day, I find myself feeling/being alone because of how I’m treated. Not to sound self-pitying, but sometimes I think I don’t exist and just living in a dream.
Hi Miyuki – I am so sorry you are being treated badly like that. Are you a student or are you in the workforce now? I really hope you will find some people to hang out with who appreciate you for who you are and don’t expect you to be some caricature of an extrovert.
@ cb: Thank you. I’m a college student now. It’s not that bad in that people mess with me about it, but I just feel that pressure. Don’t worry though, I’ve met some kind people who do accept my quiet nature. Mostly I think it’s just me who’s breaking down from it and having issues accepting it myself. This never happened to me before because I never had a problem with being quiet. It just happened over time the more it was pointed out to me.
Miyuki, I sure hope the people who have nothing better to do than point out to you how “quiet” you are will grow up soon! Quiet people are easy to have around, and I certainly don’t see how anyone could be “concerned” about it. As long as you’re happily quiet and not quiet because you’re afraid to say something, then who cares what they think?
It’s funny being a “quiet” person…people are shocked, if not downright offended, when they find out that I very much have my own ideas about things. They equate “quiet” with “weak” and think that they automatically have the upper hand when they meet me. Not so!
I’ve also had a lot of people conclude that I am a very religious person, when I am not that way at all. They’ll apologize for swearing, when I could match them in that department any day, unbeknownst to them. Anybody else had these experiences?
Bella, people assume the exact same things about me because I am quiet. I’ve been in situations where other people felt like they had the upperhand simply because I don’t voice all of my opinions, thoughts, wants, feelings, concerns, or grievances. But just because I don’t voice everything that comes to mind doesn’t mean that I don’t have those feelings and that I don’t have opinions. I can always tell when someone feels like he or she has the upperhand, upon first meeting that person. That person will view me as being a target simply because of my demeanor. What they don’t know is that I have a bad temper, even though I definitely try to control that, and I am not afraid to speak up if someone keeps annoying me, but it does take me a while to get to that point. I could definitely hold my own in a cursing match, if it really came down to it. I’m from a culture in which giving someone a good what for when ticked off, is considered the norm, but most people don’t know that I am capable of this since I tend to keep my mouth shut.
Haven’t had that experience, but your statement about swearing cracked me up!
Wow, JW, we must have been separated at birth. I too have a bad temper, and I’m not afraid to push back on someone if I have to. Shocks the heck out of them! And I know just what you mean, when you can tell they think they’ve got the upper hand right outta the gate.
Yeah, Bella. I hear ya. The one thing that really irks me is when I get annoyed enough to call someone out on something, and the person will just dismiss my complaint as if I hadn’t said anything, at all. I hate that. I notice that this happens if I am dealing with someone who thinks that he or she has the upperhand, and that is usually someone who is more extraverted. But if that person has a complaint about something I am doing, he or she expects me to drop everything and listen. And my response to that is “I DON’T THINK SO!”. You have to give respect to get respect and I am not about to abide by someone else if he or she doesn’t have enough respect to listen to me when I am the one doing the complaining. Just because I am not as loud and assertive about every complaint, doesn’t mean that my complaints aren’t as valid.
Hi–I found this website because I’m an acknowledged introvert who is dating someone even more introverted than I am. He has trouble telling me he needs time alone, but I am trying to help him with that–it’s important for both of us. I don’t want him to resent my presence, and I don’t want to have to guess when I need to leave his place to give him space. Any thoughts anyone has would be much appreciated.
Hi Alice! I think that is so considerate of you to think of making sure he has plenty of alone time, and of course none of us wants to think that we are overstaying our welcome. I actually asked a male (introvert) friend about this, and he suggested that one easy thing to do is just to not mind if he stays up doing something on his computer or other hobby after you’ve gone to sleep. Otherwise, I know it’s hard to know when to go home, or when he wishes you would. Does he ever come to your place – how long does he stay there? One thing I’ve done when spending a weekend with someone out of town is just to announce that I’m going for a walk (while he was doing something entirely different), then stay out walking for half an hour or more. That broke up that feeling of always hanging around.
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Christie–Thank you for the suggestions! Actually he does stay up sometimes after I’ve gone to sleep, and some of the time I’m there, I tend to doze on the couch. It’s peaceful happy time, sharing space but not always talking. Saturday we watched a movie and then I sat on his bed with our three dogs while he played his bass violin–so nice! But Sunday he just wasn’t responsive. When he gets that way, sometimes it passes, and sometimes it doesn’t. I talked with him about it a little–said I wanted him to be able to tell me when he needed space or tell me that he’d like to see me, and he agreed. I guess we’ll see. We’ve been together for a year and a half. He used to come to my place now and then, but I got a roommate, so he comes less often now. He is coming for dinner tonight. When he comes he either usually comes for dinner, or stays over and leaves in the late morning the next day.
I like this site!!!
Thank you.
By the way, glad you like the site!
It’s great to have you here!
Alice, maybe you could come up with a funny phrase or neutral word that means, “I need some alone time” but does not have the baggage attached to it that the phrase normally has (when it may include “becuase I’m tired of you”.) Then he can say it when he’s feeling that way, and you’ll know that it’s not a reflection on you or the relationship, but just a time out.
Bella that is a great idea! He wouldn’t have to start thinking of a way to say it – he could just say, “man cave time” or something similar.
Likewise Alice, (I may be wrong – remember I’m divorced
) if he gets really quiet by the second day you’re around, I’d get my stuff and say cheerfully, “I think I’ll head home. I have a lot to do.” Then go. As long as you don’t sound hurt or mad or anything, he may feel relieved and be glad to see you the next time he sees you. I’m sure his feelings are mixed – he needs to be ALONE – but he doesn’t want you to leave.
Oh, cb, can you please call my boyfriend and share that with him? While he is quite aware — even painfully aware — of my need for time alone, he always always always lingers (in person and on the phone and in texting!) — to the point that I get annoyed and need even more time for recharging!
Wow, after picking my son up from a birthday party, I barely said a whole sentence while driving home. I came into my room and closed the door while my children are playing games downstairs. I sat down and did a search about needing alone time and this site came up. I’m so glad I found this place!
I agree with what everyone has said about their alone time, but also add that I like privacy. I can’t even get a tampon out of my purse without that person snooping over my shoulder.
I often joke, laugh, and entertain but like to set limits… on time. I’ve been criticized for doing things alone such as eating lunch, shopping, and dining out. Extroverts seem to have hurt feelings because someone they have so much fun with do not want to eat with them. When I eat out alone, I get annoyed when the waiter or waitress frequents my table and interrupts my thoughts.
I’m planning a vacation to Florida Keys soon all by myself and whenever someone finds out, they make comments about me not being normal. Oh, I’m a single mother so I’m either at work or with my children. My alone time is extra special.
Thanks everyone for sharing!
MB
Glad you found us, and glad to have you here! I’ve also noticed how it seems to bother some people when we just do what comes natural to us. I remember I used to work near a shopping center, so during lunch I’d often run errands, especially near family birthdays or Christmas. But one day I heard a woman say, “She just gets up and leaves and doesn’t say anything to anyone!” I wondered, why do I need to announce that I’m going on an errand during my lunch break?!! Oh, that’s right – so I could be ever hopeful that someone would join me and save me from having an hour of solitude!
So, I guess it’s safe to say that neither of you — or anybody here — would find it odd that 99% of the time, my lunch break consists of getting whatever I am eating, walking a half mile to my truck, and reading one of my new magazines. (I subscribed to about four, so I always have new stuff to read.) Once, my boyfriend wanted to “surprise” me and showed up at work for lunch. It definitely did not go the way he intended because my whole routine (including mentally) was thrown off.
By the way, I love this site too! Oddly enough, it was my boyfriend who did some research on “time alone” and introduced the introvert word to me. Today, I started my own search to see what was “wrong” with me that I need so much time alone and this has the the best find!!
Hi everyone,i found this webside last night,though the post’s are all from last year,i was the most happiest person the min i found this side…
I am soooooo glad to see that i am not the only one feeling like i do,i also have serious issues having contact with others. I am most happy on my own,i kinda get worn out to have to talk too much to others,its very draining for me to have contact with other people. Though i am wotking with the puplic,which is very difficult for me,i can have a bit of chitchat,but i soon feel i have to remove myself from the situation..
I have no friends,cause i hate going out meeting others,i dont drink or smoke and others find me boring quickly..
I do things on my own,although i am most happy when i can be at home by myself and my three cats..
I’d rather be with animals then humans to be honest,atleast they dont judge me,or see me as abnormal.
Long time i thought a wasn’t normal cause i never met someone who is like me,most people i know are going straight to the pup after work,to meet again more people….
A horror thought for me..
When i get off work i lock my door and turn the phone off,cause dealing with 200 to 300 people a day is just draining and at the end i dont want to see anybody,i need this to recharge my batteries,but nobody seems to understand this…
Iam glad to have found this side to hear from others about how they deal with being an introvert… Many greetings to all of you,
Nickie
Hey Nickie – wow, no wonder you lock your door and want to be alone.. you’re definitely having more than your share of people-time during your work day! I often wonder if I’d initiate more social activities if I didn’t have things/people I *had* to have on my list, and I think the answer is definitely yes! Glad you found us!
Yeah there aren’t many out there who understand us i guess…
The worse for me is when people make me feel like i need a shrink or so..
Like,”perhaps it would be good for you to talk to someone”, that kinda thing… Drives me up the walls..
Hah – “Perhaps it would be good if I didn’t have to talk to ANYONE for a couple of DAYS!”
That’s actually what you need… a nice break from *having* to talk so you can actually look forward to talking to someone you WANT to talk to!
ha ha yeah,i just enjoy my breaks so much that i feel like an ailien when im back at work… Ah well,i cant have it all i guess.. : }
I enjoy interacting with people for a while each day. People see me as being very outgoing but think I am depressed when I want to stay home or do things alone. But I have a low saturation level and always need my down time shortly after.
I think there is something wrong with people who has to have someone else with them every moment. So I guess we’ll never understand each other.
Hi everyone,i have a question… How do you all manage relationships/friendships? I am single for a while now,my last relationship ended like the most i had,they found be boring! He like’s going to party’s,concert’s and meeting up with friends all the time,he doesn’t like to be on his own for a while,the odd going to the movie’s,or dinner was not enough for him and tge relationship was over…
I just wonder how you all manage this or am i bound to be single for the rest of my life? { not that i would mind : } }
To MomB,i know what you mean,i had a “best girlfriend” once,and she couln’t be by herself at all,she always need it to have a partner,could not be single for a while… I never understood this either,but i guess we are all different,and surely there must be a reason for the way we all are… : }
I have been thinking about the relationship factor as well. I was married for 16 yrs to a man who was basically a couch potato. So it worked well until he fell in love with a party girl then suddenly I wasn’t fun enough. Actually, I love to have fun and have enjoyed many new activities with friends since my divorce. I even tried to get the ex to do things that he refused to do, just not with me. His idea of having fun was bars, strip clubs, and things that did not involve our two children. So here I am raising them alone while he’s “having fun” and those are his words not mine.
I’ve been single for over 2 years now and trying to find a partner at my age has proven impossible. If you have read dating profiles, the majority of the men on there say they are very active, outdoorsy, love to travel and social. They also want a woman who is active (i.e. in shape), social, and love to travel (i.e. no kids involved). So I’ve given up on that aspect of life.
Unless you are in my situation, I think you’d have a much better chance of finding companionship that will not smother you and take away from your down time.
Wow. I can relate with so much of what you have all said.
I used to think I was a loner, but here recently I have found out that I’m an introvert. Most of my friends/co-workers think I am anti-social; and to tell the truth, I sometimes encourage that belief so that they will leave me alone. However, lately, I have been feeling more and more lonely.
I have been raising my 3 children on my own for a very long time, so I have always cherished those moments alone. So much so, I have been single now for 7 years; mostly, I think, because when I had free time away from my children, I would find a quiet place where I could be alone with a book and just recharge, purposely avoiding social gathers and friends.
Now my children are all in their late teens, two are in college, and I find myself alone quite often. So much so that I have been feeling extremely lonely at times. I have a few friends that I hangout with from time to time, but, to be honest, they get on my nerves when I spend too much time with them.
I guess I have been ‘anti-social’ (lol) for so long, I don’t know how to be anything else…
Hi Daniel – Boy can I relate! Of COURSE you needed quiet time totally alone when you got a little breaks while raising three kids by yourself! You didn’t have anyone at all to take care of one kid while you did something for another… or trade off taking care of things for the group while you watched or read the news alone. And yes, some of those friends we’ve hung on to over the years start to get on our nerves with too much exposure. I really hope friends and coworkers will allow you to start gradually taking part in things – things you really want to do.
Wow so much to relate to. I have been at home without much contact from the outside world for about 3 days now. I’m feeling very lonely. I just cant seem to get the balance right. I never contact people. I dont feel the need to stay in constant contact with my friends every day. But I think its gotten to the stage now where my friends are so used to me not having contact that they never contact me. They assume that I’m happy out doing my own thing. I have given off this impression with the intention of having time to recharge. But now…. When I do want to do something or hang out I feel wierd about contacting them. Because I think that in their mind theyre thinking, huh, why is she calling me out of the blue like that?
Uuurgh I dont know what to do. I have no problem at all making friends, like one of the first posters explained. I do like people. But when I meet people and we exchange numbers, have a lot in common but I’m too afraid to contact them and make plans for coffee etc without feeling like I’m some kind of stalker.
Any advice gladly appreciated.
I understand what you mean – definitely! Now – if any of those friends are introverts, then you know you can pick right back up – weeks later – and email them and suggest getting together, and they may be just about ready to do something social too. I know the extroverts can “get out of the habit” of contacting you… on the other hand, they love variety and a wide circle of friends, so don’t be afraid to call one out of the blue and say hi and see if they want to get together! I was out of town when you wrote this. I hope you had a good weekend and were able to get with some friends!
I always want more, more, more time alone….. …..and then moments will come along where I feel very lonely — for outings with friends. Not for phone calls or e-mail or going shopping — but lunch, a walk, a movie or something like that. My boyfriend would spend 24/7 with me if he could, but (a) that’s just not me; and (b) even when I’m feeling “lonely” it isn’t a longing for boyfriend/partner time.
Yep – I used to wish there was a big bulletin board of some kind that just my friends and I could see. Just to say, “If anyone wants to go to a movie Saturday afternoon..” because I didn’t know which person to call if I did get an afternoon to myself! And now we have Facebook –
So maybe that’s a start..?
Hey everyone,
I have been browsing sites like this for about a year now. It’s good to see that I’m not the only introvert out there, because it sure seems that way sometimes. I’ve still spent much more time reading what others write than communicating with them. So I will give this a shot.
Part of me wants to let the whole world know about what the word “introvert” really means, but I’ve found that most people aren’t even interested in psychology. Most people are what the MBTI refers to as “extroverted sensors”, whereas I am an “introverted intuitive”. Therefore, I am prone to be interested in theories and conceptual type stuff, and they are all about things that are tangible and care mostly about what can be processed through one of their five senses. They can’t see how any of this kind of stuff could be useful in life.
Well, for me, it certainly has been useful. I didn’t even know that I was completley normal until researching this stuff. I used to think that I was just shy- and I have been shy, which we all know is not the same as being introverted- but the REASON that I have been shy is because most people treat me like there’s something wrong with me.
It’s good to have something that “puts everything into words”- so to speak, but right now I’m having trouble finding a job, and I don’t have many friends- and the ones that I do have are always busy. So, yes, I have been lonley. Most of my alone time, which I normally enjoy, is currently spent on trying to find a solution to this perdicament. I wouldn’t really be able to talk to anybody about this even if I wanted to, because nobody I know in real life really understands, or is even interested in the type of problems that an introvert can face. They think you can just press a button and be “normal” like them.
Hi DV – Oh yes, I’ve made the mistake of trying to talk to some ESxx about this sort of thing and gotten the most blank distrustful looks, or once even, “I don’t care about personality tests; I just know how people act.” WHAT??? I just try to keep things really general and superficial with that sort of person.
I’m sorry you’re in such a lonely situation and having a hard time looking for a job. You’re obviously intelligent and express yourself well in writing, so be sure to write a great LinkedIn profile and connect to as many people as you know – even get some “recommendations” from them. Likewise beef up your Facebook – because even the busiest friends will check it at odd times – and maybe they can put you in touch with someone who’s looking for a smart employee. It’s sometimes amazing that just when I think I’m talking to people and keeping up with people from previous jobs it turns out they’ve all been talking to each other a LOT more and seeing each other more too. What seems sufficient contact to us introverts would seem to be sparse to many others.
And – remember the extrovert who was always asking you to do stuff hwen you didn’t have time – now you have time to just drop by or call him (he won’t mind!)
and see what he’s up to! Good luck and please let us know how things go for you.
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