As an introvert in college, I really fantasized about having a private room, but that just wasn’t available there, at least back then. I would have rather lived in a room just big enough for my bed than to have a roommate, and I’m sure a lot of introverts can relate to that.
Although I held my first roommate at arm’s length when I first moved to campus, by being nice and pleasant but not really friendly, I also really needed my alone time. This was a tough school, so fortunately we all had to study a lot, but of course everyone has their preferred study environment. She studied in our room, listening to music, but I’d give her a cheery, “See ya later!” and go to the library. There, I’d get a lot more done if I’d hole up in a little quiet room alone, but I did prefer to sit in an area that overlooked the large community study area. I sat alone most of the time, studying and enjoying a soda, and it was my peaceful evening while not being totally isolated. I really enjoyed having a lot of people nearby but not having to interact with a crowd. Then if I ran into someone I knew, we might make plans for another night, but I had still had a good block of time of not saying a word and not having to respond to anyone else. Even if someone I knew came and sat with me, it wasn’t my roommate, and there were still gaps of total alone time, so I didn’t feel the same energy drain somehow.
For bedtime, my roommate and I pretty much agreed on some core hours where the TV would not be on and we’d be quiet, and luckily we each knew that we’d see our boyfriends outside of the dorm. I probably wasn’t the roommate she’d dreamed of all through high school, since I made sure I got my my alone time every day and did my own thing whenever I wanted, but we got along just fine.
If you’re an introvert and you’re currently stuck with someone who is really pushy, obnoxious, or wild, I’d encourage you to find out discreetly (as in, the housing department website) what it takes to change roommates. If you have a better chance of a swap if you already know who you want to room with, you may be able to find that person in chemistry class or somewhere else where you have found a more quiet companion. Take good care of yourself and make sure you get your “me time” every day so you can enjoy college and have the energy to go out when you want to. You’ll have friends and a boyfriend/girlfriend too during these years, and you want to make sure your batteries are recharged so that you enjoy your time with them!