Comments on: Of course I don’t want to go, but an ask would be nice!

By: Mac@Moving Across Country

Mac@Moving Across Country — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 22:26:11 +0000

You should definitely not let the world dictate to you how you should live your life. We all have feelings of loneliness at times. We should reflect on all of the things we have and enjoy and know that we are blessed to be alive.
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By: Jenny@CPAP Machine

Jenny@CPAP Machine — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 01:37:27 +0000

Not everyone can turn up at every party all the time like a machine. Even extroverts want time for themselves. It is up to us to balance our own social life and own times. Being alone all the time is definitely not healthy, because humans are naturally social animals.

By: Linh Phuong

Linh Phuong — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 00:59:33 +0000

Linh Phuong: I can’t believe how much similarity I find in here, in this Introvert Zone, in this story. It’s nice knowing that we are understood .
Yesterday, I had a great event to go for, in the afternoon. But then, in the morning, when I got back home after a tiring class, I just wanted to take nap for a while, then when I woke up, I thought: Should I be going to the event? I knew it would be VERY useful for me, I just….can’t explain how I feel seeing too many people trying to exposing themselves in front of the employer (actually it was some kinda career event). But finally, I went to the event anyway, and have never regretted about it. But the thing is, I just “sneaked in”, and even don’t bother about making a fuss for people to notice me. The event was really great, I did interact with quite a number of people, but just not tried to be the center of something (actually I know I’m not comfortable with it). I totally understand how you relieved you felt when it was just You and Your cat, because I did feel the same when it was just me in the parking lot. I somehow felt guilty about it, I asked myself whether I was That Forgettable so that there were no hands shakes with so many people after the event, or there were no exciting people talking to me. But then, I wondered if I truly felt fine having exciting people in front of me, or I would just start starring on the floor or somewhere else instead of their faces.
Again, that’s good knowing that there are people-like you- feeling the same. I’ve always been afraid of sharing it to others, I did try many times, but it only works for a few people, a very few people (including my Very best Friend forever). I’m scared of weird looks of people to whom I’m talking about that, but as I found this zone, it would be completely Fine . Thank you for sharing this story.

By: Ryan

Ryan — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 00:19:44 +0000

This site is fantastic! It’s really good to know that there are other people out there who have almost the exact same feelings as me in situations like this. I love being an introvert, but it can be quite difficult when stuff like this turns up. It doesn’t even spark depression, it’s almost like a sense of frustration when I don’t get invited to a party, even though I know I would absolutely hate being there.

By: Nate@TRX Coupon Code

Nate@TRX Coupon Code — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 22:11:14 +0000

This is extremely informational for me. I have a real introvert in my family and I am going to show them this site. Its good to know there are solutions.
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By: Nina C.

Nina C. — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 06:27:22 +0000

All this time I believed to be this weird antisocial person !! It sucks that society is more “Extrovert friendly”. I actually read in forbes.com that Introverts make better leaders that made me happy.

By: Robert Heck

Robert Heck — Thu, 11 Aug 2011 15:16:40 +0000

Lol…it’s all about the control…!

By: Christy

Christy — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 22:10:19 +0000

I usually appreciate being asked, even if I have to feel bad for saying no. It makes me feel nice, to know that people appreciate me and want my presence with them in their activity. On the other side of it, if I know people close to me are planning something and they don’t invite me, I feel hurt and unwanted, even if they don’t invite me because they know I love staying home. Just because we’re introverts doesn’t mean we don’t need companionship too. Just in smaller doses.

By: Angela

Angela — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 13:37:08 +0000

My husband is an extreme extrovert and it’s been a long road for us, because I am very introverted. He decided he wanted a birthday party two days before his birthday and he called everyone from his huge selection of extroverts. He knew I was an introvert and I wasn’t going to plan it gracefully so he took over. When a social butterfly wants to take charge I let them have at it, less for me to worry about & fewer people to drain my energy. I was dreading this glorious event but it turned out that the only people who showed up were a few introvert friends of ours who came only because they knew what it meant to him. He learned a valuable lesson that day. Most of his social circle of “friends” were really acquaintances who have such a busy social schedule that they couldn’t fit him in at last minute’s notice. The introverts had nothing planned and wanted him to know that someone cared so they showed up, God bless ‘em. He had a nice time without loud people trying to talk over one another and there were no contests for attention. I had to actually use my eyes and look around me to see who had come. Usually at parties my ears suffice for this task as there are typically loud announcements made, “I’M HERE!” Sometimes I’m shocked to not see a bull horn in their face. They can really be that loud and obnoxious.
Introverts may not have a busy social schedule but we are genuine and we are loyal to those we are close to.
I often envision myself as Wilson, the faithful neighbor of Tim The Toolman. He’s rarely present at the major functions of Tim’s life. He usually declines when invited to actively partake in Tim’s events. However I imagine he would be hurt if Tim never asked. When introverts have been given the quiet space to thrive, we are there when people need us and we don’t have to be loud or even constantly present in another person’s life to help them. We are the quiet haven for those who are bombarded by the external world and we usually give very good advice as long as our needs are met.
When we take a stand and fight for our right NOT to party in our own quiet way, we are peaceful and content. I finally reached a point where I utterly refuse to be dragged through my life kicking and screaming and doing things that I don’t want to do. Party invites to me are like bait and if I accept 1 invitation it will take 10 future invite rejects for them to get the picture and leave me alone. I remind myself of this if I feel bad about not being invited. Then I go wherever I want and have a nice party for one and usually have a great time.

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:41:47 +0000

I remember feeling that way too when I first move out of my parents’ house. I hadn’t realized how having “built-in people” really made it so I was never lonely – even though I loved having my door shut and listening to music or reading. I think you’ll gradually get more friends or at least friendly acquaintances that you’re really glad to do something with once in a while. Of course we often need or want to go home after work, so that will slow the process down, of course.