I never gave my introversion any thought until a TIME article came out with it as a feature about two weeks ago. It really got me thinking about my own tendencies, especially the part about getting exhausted from being around other people.
I truly love being alone and cherish my solitary time, which I typically will spend with a coffee and a book. I would always get angry when people would try and strike up a conversation with me during this time, and for a long time I had assumed that I was just a jerk, particularly because I am not in any way shy. The fact that I am not shy would explain why I have long been an “undiagnosed” introvert.
For the past two years since my son was born, I would get extraordinarily tired right around dinner time. So much that I normally can’t even keep my eyes open and end up taking a cat nap while sitting straight up. I thought it was some kind of health problem until recently. Now I just realize that it is because everyone is in the house and constantly needing attention. That everyone includes my son, my wildly extroverted daughter, and my shy wife who is quite gabby at home.
In the title, I mentioned how I feel like I am going to explode, and that is necessarily an exaggeration. I need to maintain my energy in order to get work done (I work at home, which actually sucks), but find that I can’t muster any energy until everyone heads off to bed, but at that point I am usually so drained that nothing gets done. My wife is constantly trying to draw me into conversations when I just want silence and that makes me irritable. Following that up with the question of “what’s wrong” only makes it worse.
My question, and I am sure it is a common one on here is: how can I tell her about my need for silence without hurting her feelings? With a young child, I literally can’t get away from everyone for any meaningful time. The only time this is possible is during the day when I should be working, which leads to less money and financial instability. I just don’t know what to do…
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