Comments on: Introvert needs are positive and healthy

By: Marko

Marko — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 04:35:19 +0000

Im learning about it by reading these posts too dont be scared youre not alone. I hope i didnt argue with her too much about it, we had 2-3 arguments so far, as she is also impossible to explain, she doesnt even try as you can see in my post below Im lucky i found this website or id be lost. You need to be strong and let her be, and find more interest in other things in life, and still when she is available have her by your side. Please someone correct me anytime if im wrong…

By: Marko

Marko — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 04:30:42 +0000

My girlfriend is intorvert and im medium, more of an extrovert person, however i needed to get that all out of her mouth with the clams…when she had a job that allowed her a lot of free time and far away from her family, she was always on skype texting me every day, now that shes back with the family, shes got things going on and she doesnt pay much more attention on me. I was scared, and still am that im loosing her, but i concluded that she is actually an introvert(i never knew any before) and just needs time for herself as a major priority. Shes so intorvert and closed person that she never said anything, if i was to ask her whats wrong she would just say nothing, short and simple. I was very hurt for some time, but im learning to cope with that, unfortunately we are having a distance relationship and we dont get to see eachother very often so that also makes me unsettled about that whole time-alone thing…

By: Lori

Lori — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 13:03:59 +0000

I am 55 and just discovered that there are other people out there just like me and they are called introverts. So we have not fared all that well in the coming out department in the past but the fact that I did find hear an interview with an author who is an introvert and writes about the subject, read some books and then found this site bodes well. From what I’ve read here, we do want to be understood and accepted, and many of us are speaking up to friends, family and coworkers. It’s always easier when you find out you are not alone and are not so different or strange. I know I am going to speak up more now that I understand what I need for myself and that there are others out there making the case as well. It is a benign form of advocacy. Now I don’t know if we’ll ever move into the logo/t-shirt/signage phase of coming out, but you never know, stranger things have happened …

By: Christy

Christy — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 06:46:03 +0000

One of the easiest ways to understand it would be to compare her with yourself and understand that she is exactly opposite. Extraverts physically need to be with people to gain energy. Introverts physically need time alone to gain energy. This has been scientifically documented, and it really is as simple as that. Your girlfriend needs refueling in her own way, that’s all. When you argue with her about it, it probably feels to her like you don’t care that she is completely exhausted by what gives you energy.

By: James@bodybuilding Tips

James@bodybuilding Tips — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 14:56:05 +0000

Nice comment kristi, I agree with you – life is to short to worry about what everyone else thinks you should just do what you want the way you want and without having too worry about whet everyone else thinks.
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By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 12:28:12 +0000

She probably just needs some time alone, as she is saying. What she does with her “me time” you really shouldn’t be that concerned about. Introverted people in general likes to me alone doing things like reading,drawing, relaxing, listening to music, running, going for walks, writing etc, depending on their interests. The best thing you could do, I think, is to respect her need to be alone. You should no try to force her to be with you all of the time, and become pushy or angry when she doesn’t, just try to give her some space, even if she isn’t able to give you a valid answare to kny she wants to be alone. I am certain that she will appreciate it if you gave her more space and time alone.

By: Eric extrovert seeking help

Eric extrovert seeking help — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 05:13:50 +0000

I am an extrovert, and am having trouble understanding what my introverted girlfriend means when she wants “me time”. I see all these posts by introverts, and I am finding it very hard to understand it all. My girlfriend and I are constantly getting into arguments about this “me time”. She gets agitated that I don’t understand, even though I am trying to ask questions so I CAN understand. Is there someone who can help me understand this? Because she is running out of answers, and it makes me feel stupid that I don’t understand.

As I have said, there have been many arguments about this “me time” thing, and I just can’t seem to fully grasp the concept. Help anyone?!

By: rojer@Travel Agents Sri Lanka

rojer@Travel Agents Sri Lanka — Tue, 15 Feb 2011 08:20:55 +0000

Great article..For the introvert, mental health IS physical health. This is not to be confused with the school of thought, mostly proposed by the 70% extroverts who don’t understand them, that they are mentally ill.

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 13:38:57 +0000

Yep. The thing is, we often hear all the negative things – that we can’t or don’t like. But the solitude we really seek isn’t about hiding or avoiding; it’s about doing what makes us happy, gives our brain a state of near-bliss!

By: Charles Waddles

Charles Waddles — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 18:49:34 +0000

Well, I have come to the realization that I am who I am. I will always act slightly different than the others. I will think differently. But that is ok. I will always put myself with people I know I can trust to always be there for me and understand. There is nothing else you can do! We have to work on communicating our feelings so that people understand what we are thinking!