Comments on: Introvert micro energy management

By: jamie

jamie — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 01:19:38 +0000

I can relate so much it almost hurts. I usually can manage 2-3 hours, but then I am drained most of the day. Usually need a couple of hours to recoup alone. This really is driving me INSANE as I always felt that I never got to live my life to the full extent. I am only 24, but there is still so much I have never managed to enjoyed.

The time that I have “wasted” before is fine, and I am actually glad I finally know whats with me. On the other hand I just began a super expensive study and I feel that I cannot get the full deal out of it as most of it is based on networking and I hate chit chat. There are usually events hosted every weekend. Everyone keeps pushing me to events here and there. If I don’t go then I won’t get to meet the people as those events are the only ones class mates and other people attend. AAAAA!!! What to do? Any suggestions?! :E

By: Christy

Christy — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 21:42:53 +0000

This is a very wonderful thing to bring up. I do it naturally, thank goodness. When I worked in an office setting, in a job and environment I loved, whenever I had to go use the bathroom, I would take a book, walk slowly while reading, and walk slowly back reading. I always take a book or notebook anywhere I go, which means I carry my own little bubble of aloneness with me. Now that I’ve left that job (and miss it very much), people there tell me they miss seeing me walk around with my nose in a book all the time. It was the best environment ever, social but pleasantly, not intrusively, so.
Also, I always get up in the morning at least an hour earlier than I need to be anywhere and spend that hour alone with my Bible and coffee. And at night I retire to my room an hour before I need to go to bed and spend that time reading or writing. Having that time at the beginning and at the end makes me very healthy.

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 16:56:01 +0000

I understand that feeling! And it’s such a shame – sometimes by the next morning I wish the person was here again, for the day. But before I can miss them, I needed a good break from them!

By: Emily Roberts

Emily Roberts — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 18:08:26 +0000

I have that trouble too whenever my friend from out of town visits: She often stays the entire weekend and is very high energy, never happy in one spot or with less than three people around for more than an hour or two, and after two days of that, I am ready to get some serious time alone! Usually by the time it’s all over, I’m too tired to feel guilty about wanting everyone to leave!

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:37:57 +0000

Oh no! That is so awful. I actually don’t know how you do it. I would have already totally melted down at least once under those circumstances. Yep – if it wouldn’t hurt their feelings, a hotel for you would be very refreshing!

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 15:11:21 +0000

I’m late chiming in, but this touched on perhaps my biggest problem regarding my “introvert energy”: houseguests who stay for WEEKS. My extended family lives hours away, so they feel a need for very long (by my standards) visits. (Anywhere from 8 to 20 days.) They are all very extroverted, and seem totally perplexed that I start to get irritable after DAYS of uninterrupted chit chat. It has damaged our relationship because they just don’t understand that I need space – they think I’m “hiding” and don’t like them. I like them, but not underfoot for weeks at a time with no break! Having to be “on” at work and then coming home and getting no relief makes me crazy. Asking them to stay in a hotel is out of the question. Maybe I’ll stay in a hotel myself the next time they come….

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 13:40:59 +0000

Hi Mildred – thanks so much for the kind words! It’s funny; I used to just think I was a little bit of an “odd bird” for some of my tendencies/preferences, but I’m learning more and more that I share those tendencies/preferences with a lot of people! Thanks again for your comment, and I hope you’ll join us here at IntrovertZone often!

By: Mildred

Mildred — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:56:10 +0000

I’m so glad I came across your site. I’m an introvert and after reading a couple of your articles, I can honestly say that you capture an introvert’s inner life extremely well! Your site should be recommended reading for – well – everyone! Both introverts and extroverts. Thank you so much!

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 03:27:57 +0000

Deb I am in exactly the same boat. I envy people who still live in their home towns so they can see their family and close friends WITHOUT the overnight stuff. As it is, I often have just day trips to my family 150 miles away because by the end of the day I am ready to be alone. And likewise I don’t invite family/friends to come and stay with me as often as I used to – or as often as I’d like to see them.

TV is a great crutch – especially if it’s something you can all be involved in, like watching a sporting event. Or I also used to go and do things with the animals at my parents’ house years ago. Then the hours would just fly by. Anything is preferable to sitting and looking at each other and making small talk.

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 03:23:40 +0000

I’ve never been to Texas either! Anyone?