An Introvert Asks: How to break a cycle of overpowering loneliness

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This was actually a comment by a guy named Scott on the post about loneliness and introverts, and he’s had a lot of good responses, but I knew that many of you are subscribers and would not know about the new comment on the older post. It’s a great question and I know a lot of us have been in the same situation to greater or lesser extents and might have some more advice and comments for him. Here’s what Scott said:

I am 37 and always seemed to have a problem being around other people. I was the person always being picked on in elementary and middle school. Because of this, I tried to avoid as many people as possible. My solution was to concentrate on my studies and progress adademically. But socially, I failed. When I graduated high school, I lost all contact with the few friends I had. We all went in different directions. Shortly after graduation I attended trade school and earned an Associates Degree in Electronics. Soon after that, I started a full-time job and entered the “real world”. Back in that time, I was in my 20s, and one day I said to myself ” I wonder how my life was going to be like when I reach 30.”

Now at 37, my career is going fine, but socially I suffer. The loneliness I feel is overpowering. I have no friends and I feel like an outcast. I am an unhappy introvert who wants to change. I do not like being alone and doing things by myself anymore. Life is meant to be enjoyed with other people. I am currently subscribed to an online relationship website trying to find a companion or friend but so far, I have been unsuccessful. I hope I am not too late to change. Do you have any suggestions or comments. Thanks! Scott

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  18. that sounds similar to my story I had a hard time at school specifically elementary school found my refuge in running away, and locking myself in doors missed out on alot things that I didnt realize I know how you feel I get older see more people get married and I’m stuck and not sure how to pull out and you walk around hurting because of it you can always change. take it from me I’m working on the same issues you have of course I’m a bit of a dick and arrogant and diabetes opportunities to meet nice people, but one thing back in school I was a complete failure and add a askit I amaze myself on occasion with what I am able to do and achieve sometime, I hope I can do it socially as well so if I can turn it around that area I’m hopeful I can turn it around just the same I think we both need to learn to trust people again and let the embarrassment of the past go good luck

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