I finally found out after 36 (!) years that I’m an introvert.
I really never understood why I always got so stressed out and exhausted after spending time with other people than my family and closest friends. I always felt that I was a bit weird and a lousy friend when I rather spent some time alone drinking tea and reading a book than hanging out with other people. I always got so tired after meeting other people and so full of energy when spending time by myself….and I always felt that I should change and felt guilty when I didn’t feel like spending time with other people.
I have been really exhausted for periods of my life and I’ve been told that I really should meet more people to ‘recharge my batteries’ after work….A really bad piece of advice for me since I spend my whole days at work meeting other people.
I got more and more tired, but since I never had heard of ‘extroverts’ or ‘introverts’ I came to the conclusion that there was something wrong with me.
My problem is that I’m so used to pushing myself to talk when I meet people (eg at work) just because I always felt that “this is what I have to do, this is what people do when they meet'” etc. This is really killing me because it makes me so exhausted. It’s hard to change a bad habit just like that, especially when other people expect me to behave in this extrovert way. I so much would prefer to just sit and listen to other people without forcing myself to speak, but I don’t know how to anymore.
I would really appreciate some good advice from you clever people!
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