I see patterns in people’s behaviour. Sometimes there’s things that you don’t like about this person for example – he love to curse and making putdown statement. And then he expect you to do the same. But in my head I’m already thinking “how can I change this dude anyway?”. But it’s useless. Because the crappy ones, would stay that way until something *big* hits them in life that makes them question their own actions, sayings etc. And maybe by some “miracle” they would change (sigh).

That’s why with some people I can be real friendly with them at first but once I see some kind of “pattern”, and intuitively I know what this guy is thinking of me, (as if I’m just some inferior ‘loser’ you can call of names and all) I just completely ignore them. In my head I’ve already labelled them “crap”. In a more rare, extreme case I would find ways to encourage others not to befriend, or ignore this person (usually most others don’t like this idiot jerk too so it’s not much big deal).

In my principal you don’t “fix” people that has too much BS in them. It’s not going to work, but at the same time ironically I do think these kind of person *should exist* so that others could appreciate those that have manners and don’t treat others like dirt. Still, they’re parasites, and parasites drain your energy and will keep on sucking you up dry.

So you ignore them, perchance they will think “maybe the way I act made them to completely ignore me” but usually this is impossible. But it doesn’t matter anyway, if people want to become crappy and ruin their own life in the long run that’s their choice. It’s just the beginning of their fall.

Most people also learn in different methods, ways, or experiences and I think sometimes we can get our point across with a lot more ease if we new how to minipluate this a little into our favor.

For example I have brother who is going to be a great leader however if he can’t stop being a leader/boss to everyone else around him even when he’s not in the position yet. He doesn’t even realize what he is doing is wrong. So rather than be upfront with him as I new he would get defensive and ignore me I decided to take a different approach and turn the tides back on him.

I asked him how was his day? Of course out come all the idiots! I stopped him. I don’t care about them, so what did you do today? blah blah… comes back to the idiots he wants to life coach.

So I said they don’t interest me if I wanted to know about them I’d ask. Also its not your job to tell them what to do, if they aren’t doing their job it reflects badly on their managers not you. So why do keep insisting on cleaning up after the managers when you don’t have too? Because I have too, if noone else is! Not yet brother, very soon, if you put your head down and get your bosses job.

Heh, it’s amazing how “friends” disappear into thin air once I tell them “no.”