Comments on: Instant Messaging and the Introvert http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert Sun, 05 Feb 2012 01:14:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Serika http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-3125 Serika Sun, 27 Mar 2011 03:56:12 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-3125 I love IMing. A lot of people like talking to me but out of my 192 contacts on my IM account, I only appear online to 3 people. The rest I ignore and stay offline to. For me it's easier to communicate with fellow introverts, i don't feel like I'm wasting my time or that I'm being misunderstood. We speak in our own language and talk about things that interests us. I try to hold confersations with othe rpeople but they are often very brief. TO me in the world of IM you can control who you talk to and how long you talk to them. As opposed to in person when the other party can tell when your lying about having to leave :) I love IMing. A lot of people like talking to me but out of my 192 contacts on my IM account, I only appear online to 3 people. The rest I ignore and stay offline to. For me it’s easier to communicate with fellow introverts, i don’t feel like I’m wasting my time or that I’m being misunderstood. We speak in our own language and talk about things that interests us. I try to hold confersations with othe rpeople but they are often very brief. TO me in the world of IM you can control who you talk to and how long you talk to them. As opposed to in person when the other party can tell when your lying about having to leave :)

]]> By: carefulseeker http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-3096 carefulseeker Wed, 23 Mar 2011 17:59:54 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-3096 How do people feel about Skype or video messaging? Sometimes I try to avoid it! I think while I am on my computer I want to be on my computer looking at things...I would rather talk on the phone than Skype. But of course it has its benefits. It can't be a spontaneous thing but planned and for a certain amount of time. I think that is fair to say for IM too. I can be IMing for hours when I don't really want to. How do people feel about Skype or video messaging? Sometimes I try to avoid it! I think while I am on my computer I want to be on my computer looking at things…I would rather talk on the phone than Skype. But of course it has its benefits. It can’t be a spontaneous thing but planned and for a certain amount of time. I think that is fair to say for IM too. I can be IMing for hours when I don’t really want to.

]]> By: Chris http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2883 Chris Fri, 07 Jan 2011 14:20:44 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-2883 For some things, IM/email is more convenient (don't have to remember things), other times being physically there and talking instead of typing it all out (unless you're both really fast typers), sometimes is more efficient for me. One coworker (who sadly left last week :( ), he would sometimes come up in person instead, which I actually liked because I liked being around him, other times due to physical limitations IM was still welcome because it was our way of connecting. Iif it's a person I like or a loved one, being in their physical presence is the most satisfying (maybe my S in ISTJ). Their inflection, body language, pitch change, all helps to more experience them. It's funny that there seems to be levels of intimacy tied with communication forms, like talking on the phone is more than text, which might be more than IM, than more than voicemail or email. I recall times when I wanted it to go to voicemail instead of the person answering. Emails or letter writing, there's something really good about those, when both people reply back with equal amounts though, not sending a letter than getting almost text message replies back, that's not what letter writings about. For some things, IM/email is more convenient (don’t have to remember things), other times being physically there and talking instead of typing it all out (unless you’re both really fast typers), sometimes is more efficient for me. One coworker (who sadly left last week :( ), he would sometimes come up in person instead, which I actually liked because I liked being around him, other times due to physical limitations IM was still welcome because it was our way of connecting.

Iif it’s a person I like or a loved one, being in their physical presence is the most satisfying (maybe my S in ISTJ). Their inflection, body language, pitch change, all helps to more experience them.

It’s funny that there seems to be levels of intimacy tied with communication forms, like talking on the phone is more than text, which might be more than IM, than more than voicemail or email. I recall times when I wanted it to go to voicemail instead of the person answering.

Emails or letter writing, there’s something really good about those, when both people reply back with equal amounts though, not sending a letter than getting almost text message replies back, that’s not what letter writings about.

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1565 IntrovertZone Sat, 19 Jun 2010 01:13:41 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1565 I like Twitter for certain subjects - like introverts comiserating about annoying people in the break room, warning other pet lovers about food recalls, c0mplaining to Lowe's when I don't get something I ordered. But I don't read peoples' announcements about what they and their schmoopy-bear are having at Starbucks. ;) I like Twitter for certain subjects – like introverts comiserating about annoying people in the break room, warning other pet lovers about food recalls, c0mplaining to Lowe’s when I don’t get something I ordered. But I don’t read peoples’ announcements about what they and their schmoopy-bear are having at Starbucks. ;)

]]> By: Lillyana http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1559 Lillyana Fri, 18 Jun 2010 21:59:12 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1559 I commited suicide on both Facebook and Hi5!! I couldn't stand the bunch of mails I got whenever someone had a 'thought'! (brain fart's the right expression) Deleted everything, everyone and then puff... I died. Then, I had the mega-ultra-stupidest idea of all times when I joined Twitter; I was in there for about 2 weeks and decided to slit that one too. IMs work for me. I commited suicide on both Facebook and Hi5!! I couldn’t stand the bunch of mails I got whenever someone had a ‘thought’! (brain fart’s the right expression) Deleted everything, everyone and then puff… I died.

Then, I had the mega-ultra-stupidest idea of all times when I joined Twitter; I was in there for about 2 weeks and decided to slit that one too. IMs work for me.

]]> By: Emily Roberts http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1494 Emily Roberts Fri, 11 Jun 2010 05:57:36 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1494 I know exactly what you mean! I somehow allowed myself to get wheedled into joining facebook, and now half my class has "friended" me. Many of the kids on my "friends list" are the popular type who wouldn't be caught dead talking to the likes of me, and who frankly, I have no interest in getting to know. I never use facebook, and yet on those rare occasions when I do visit--say, once every three to four months at best-- I find that people are still writing to me and commenting on photos of me that other people have posted! They must be really bored if they're actually trying to start a conversation with a person they know is never there! :) I know exactly what you mean! I somehow allowed myself to get wheedled into joining facebook, and now half my class has “friended” me. Many of the kids on my “friends list” are the popular type who wouldn’t be caught dead talking to the likes of me, and who frankly, I have no interest in getting to know. I never use facebook, and yet on those rare occasions when I do visit–say, once every three to four months at best– I find that people are still writing to me and commenting on photos of me that other people have posted! They must be really bored if they’re actually trying to start a conversation with a person they know is never there! :)

]]> By: KStew http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1492 KStew Thu, 10 Jun 2010 22:06:29 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1492 I don't like IM much, although I'd rather text, email, IM...than use the phone. Email is still my favorite, because just like you said, we get the chance to think and reply if we want to. Nonetheless, I find all of those networking sites are really annoying. Alas, I am member to a couple of them (due to the bribery my friends have made). At first they may be alright, you "friend" those people who you really know, but then this person and the other want to "friend" you as well. I cannot fathom why there are people with 1,000 friends, when they don't really know each other. It's so absurd. I don’t like IM much, although I’d rather text, email, IM…than use the phone. Email is still my favorite, because just like you said, we get the chance to think and reply if we want to. Nonetheless, I find all of those networking sites are really annoying. Alas, I am member to a couple of them (due to the bribery my friends have made). At first they may be alright, you “friend” those people who you really know, but then this person and the other want to “friend” you as well. I cannot fathom why there are people with 1,000 friends, when they don’t really know each other. It’s so absurd.

]]> By: Emily Roberts http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1445 Emily Roberts Thu, 03 Jun 2010 06:44:43 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1445 Oh brother, I hate IM's! They are almost as annoying as talking to people face to face, but worse because it seems to take all my friends decades to respond, so I'm hanging around waiting for a good five to ten minutes for them to send a pointless three-word reply to something that didn't really need replying to. I love text-messages because I am always so awkward on the phone. I have known my best friend for over six years, and in all that time I have called her maybe three times, and always for a purpose; never to chat idly--she always calls me, and even when our conversations last for hours, we have a mutual unspoken agreement that she does all the talking while I listen attentively. Of course my extroverted father, who doesn't get unlimited texting, is somewhat annoyed that I text people more than I call them, and he's always telling me to just call, but he doesn't understand how incredibly awkward and self-conscious I feel calling people; even my own grandparents! I have to say though, of the millions of ways we have to communicate with one another now, email is, and will probably remain my favourite; it's low-pressure, gives me time to say things well, doesn't take much time, and is so impersonal that it doesn't feel the least bit uncomfortable. I do love the internet! :) Oh brother, I hate IM’s! They are almost as annoying as talking to people face to face, but worse because it seems to take all my friends decades to respond, so I’m hanging around waiting for a good five to ten minutes for them to send a pointless three-word reply to something that didn’t really need replying to. I love text-messages because I am always so awkward on the phone. I have known my best friend for over six years, and in all that time I have called her maybe three times, and always for a purpose; never to chat idly–she always calls me, and even when our conversations last for hours, we have a mutual unspoken agreement that she does all the talking while I listen attentively. Of course my extroverted father, who doesn’t get unlimited texting, is somewhat annoyed that I text people more than I call them, and he’s always telling me to just call, but he doesn’t understand how incredibly awkward and self-conscious I feel calling people; even my own grandparents! I have to say though, of the millions of ways we have to communicate with one another now, email is, and will probably remain my favourite; it’s low-pressure, gives me time to say things well, doesn’t take much time, and is so impersonal that it doesn’t feel the least bit uncomfortable. I do love the internet! :)

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1443 IntrovertZone Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:39:03 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1443 :) That's the thing - we hope that people will use the method we can live with. I don't know why everyone has to have that instant response - phone, in person, IM, but they seem to need or at least want it! :) That’s the thing – we hope that people will use the method we can live with. I don’t know why everyone has to have that instant response – phone, in person, IM, but they seem to need or at least want it!

]]> By: Sarah R http://introvertzone.com/instant-messaging-and-the-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1437 Sarah R Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:26:52 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=199#comment-1437 I hate IM. But recently it's expected I use it at work. But like this article says, I set mine to 'Don't interrupt' after the very first completely useless, just because it's cool to IM. All of my project team knows they _can_ IM me, but they still come over to ask the questions, which I do actually prefer, as long as they don't stay too long ;) I hate IM. But recently it’s expected I use it at work. But like this article says, I set mine to ‘Don’t interrupt’ after the very first completely useless, just because it’s cool to IM. All of my project team knows they _can_ IM me, but they still come over to ask the questions, which I do actually prefer, as long as they don’t stay too long ;)

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