Comments on: How to Deal With an Introvert http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert Sun, 05 Feb 2012 01:14:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Extrospection http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-6374 Extrospection Thu, 15 Dec 2011 17:08:39 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-6374 I am an extrovert and I sincerely do not think anything negative about Introverts, I understand that we are just different types of people and equal in our abilities. I have a very close friend who is an introvert and we get along just fine. However, I need help in understanding how introverts validate their positions on various topics, ranging from science to politics to art by their peers or other people. My experience has been that usually (not necessarily always) introverts are not very interested in engaging in public debates or participate in general intellectual discourse in an open setting. This is perfectly ok, they don’t have to; but I am not sure how this attitude eventually does not lead to "I know what I like and I like what I know" kind of mentality? To be sure, I am not trying to criticize anybody; I am really trying to understand better how introverts engage or prefer to engage in a healthy dialogue. Any feedback is very welcome. I am an extrovert and I sincerely do not think anything negative about Introverts, I understand that we are just different types of people and equal in our abilities. I have a very close friend who is an introvert and we get along just fine.
However, I need help in understanding how introverts validate their positions on various topics, ranging from science to politics to art by their peers or other people. My experience has been that usually (not necessarily always) introverts are not very interested in engaging in public debates or participate in general intellectual discourse in an open setting. This is perfectly ok, they don’t have to; but I am not sure how this attitude eventually does not lead to “I know what I like and I like what I know” kind of mentality?
To be sure, I am not trying to criticize anybody; I am really trying to understand better how introverts engage or prefer to engage in a healthy dialogue. Any feedback is very welcome.

]]> By: Amy http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-3714 Amy Wed, 20 Jul 2011 11:30:53 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-3714 I am havig a difficult time with my introverted in-laws. My husband is a quiet person who tends to be on the introvert side yet he is not socially awkward (by that I mean he says hello and takes an interest in new people although he may not talk much). In oher words, he looks people in the eye , smiles and shows interest. Hisbrother, sister and mother are extreme introverts to the extent that they don't say hello (in their own house) look people in the eye or show any interest in "hew people" although I've been married to their brother for 3 years now, I guess I'm still "new people". I am hurt at not being acknowleged when I go to their house and don't relly know what to do to draw them out. I am a social person but not loud or aggressive. I am havig a difficult time with my introverted in-laws. My husband is a quiet person who tends to be on the introvert side yet he is not socially awkward (by that I mean he says hello and takes an interest in new people although he may not talk much). In oher words, he looks people in the eye , smiles and shows interest. Hisbrother, sister and mother are extreme introverts to the extent that they don’t say hello (in their own house) look people in the eye or show any interest in “hew people” although I’ve been married to their brother for 3 years now, I guess I’m still “new people”. I am hurt at not being acknowleged when I go to their house and don’t relly know what to do to draw them out. I am a social person but not loud or aggressive.

]]> By: Jack Kingsley, DUI attorney. http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2864 Jack Kingsley, DUI attorney. Mon, 20 Dec 2010 20:12:55 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2864 As an introvert myself, I can support every word written in this article as true. Thank you for putting this out there, friend; it's a call to extroverts everywhere to stop looking down upon us. As an introvert myself, I can support every word written in this article as true. Thank you for putting this out there, friend; it’s a call to extroverts everywhere to stop looking down upon us.

]]> By: Goawaybird http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2858 Goawaybird Thu, 16 Dec 2010 20:41:16 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2858 I'm an introvert myself, but am also the mother of my introverted 13-year-old teen daughter. Being one myself I can understand her in many ways, possibly better than my own mom, who is a very outgoing person, managed to understand me when I was 13. However I have a fine feeling that I'm not as equipped to dealing with her misbehaviour as my mom was when dealing with mine. As such, my daughter hides behind incredible emotional cataclysms, talks about suicide when I tell her to pick up her clothes, and doesn't seem to want to participate in anything positive we do as a family (and because I'm an introvert there isn't even that much we do together in the first place!). She's not the only drama queen in the family, but because my younger daughter is very extroverted, the drama is obvious. But how does one deal with a teen who refuses to participate in the good stuff and gets overdramatic with the bad stuff? I feel as though she's deliberately trying to lay a guilt trip on me - and succeeding! The drive is to make me feel like a bad mother. I would appreciate some help from an experienced parent here... I’m an introvert myself, but am also the mother of my introverted 13-year-old teen daughter. Being one myself I can understand her in many ways, possibly better than my own mom, who is a very outgoing person, managed to understand me when I was 13. However I have a fine feeling that I’m not as equipped to dealing with her misbehaviour as my mom was when dealing with mine. As such, my daughter hides behind incredible emotional cataclysms, talks about suicide when I tell her to pick up her clothes, and doesn’t seem to want to participate in anything positive we do as a family (and because I’m an introvert there isn’t even that much we do together in the first place!).

She’s not the only drama queen in the family, but because my younger daughter is very extroverted, the drama is obvious. But how does one deal with a teen who refuses to participate in the good stuff and gets overdramatic with the bad stuff? I feel as though she’s deliberately trying to lay a guilt trip on me – and succeeding! The drive is to make me feel like a bad mother.

I would appreciate some help from an experienced parent here…

]]> By: OneCharmingDiva http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2747 OneCharmingDiva Wed, 03 Nov 2010 18:49:20 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2747 Being somewhat introverted, I appreciat your stance. Too many times introverts get judged wrongly, (ie crazy, strange, arrogant) when in all actuality they are wrong. I choose a book over gossip & that makes me strange? Wow! Why not learn to be accepting & not be afraid of the "unknown". Being somewhat introverted, I appreciat your stance. Too many times introverts get judged wrongly, (ie crazy, strange, arrogant) when in all actuality they are wrong. I choose a book over gossip & that makes me strange? Wow! Why not learn to be accepting & not be afraid of the “unknown”.

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2393 IntrovertZone Sun, 29 Aug 2010 20:19:54 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2393 Some of us may not want a push, but we may like to see an extended hand ready to support us while we come out and look around a little! :) Some of us may not want a push, but we may like to see an extended hand ready to support us while we come out and look around a little! :)

]]> By: rockford moves http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2379 rockford moves Fri, 27 Aug 2010 19:51:16 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2379 Great tips. Some people just need their space and others just need a nice push to come out of their shell. Great tips. Some people just need their space and others just need a nice push to come out of their shell.

]]> By: Miami Family Law Attorneys http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2375 Miami Family Law Attorneys Fri, 27 Aug 2010 13:02:36 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2375 I just loved this post and didn’t find it aggressive at all. I just loved this post and didn’t find it aggressive at all.

]]> By: Lucy @ Lyrics http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-2264 Lucy @ Lyrics Thu, 12 Aug 2010 19:52:58 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-2264 I think i am 50% introvert but it depends of who are the people around me because i could be very extrovert with a friend. People should never try to change the personality of the other but accept it as it is, the differents personalities in this world make every ones unique. I think i am 50% introvert but it depends of who are the people around me because i could be very extrovert with a friend. People should never try to change the personality of the other but accept it as it is, the differents personalities in this world make every ones unique.

]]> By: Heere http://introvertzone.com/how-to-deal-with-an-introvert/comment-page-1#comment-1974 Heere Fri, 30 Jul 2010 13:08:10 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=912#comment-1974 Being an introvert is not abnormal by any degree, it's a completely natural way of being. Why do some people assume that introverts are not happy? That's not the case at all. I am an introvert and I love being in my space. Thanks for this article, it's really good. Being an introvert is not abnormal by any degree, it’s a completely natural way of being. Why do some people assume that introverts are not happy? That’s not the case at all. I am an introvert and I love being in my space. Thanks for this article, it’s really good.

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