Comments on: How to ask an introvert on a date

By: melissa

melissa — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 06:23:16 +0000

This has really helped me a great deal in understanding introverts I am an extrovert and I’ve fallen in love with an introvert. Now I’m trying to ask him out subtly without scaring him away or being too overbearing. I always have to make the first move with him but sometimes (although rarely) he was the one who manage to take the intiative. And then sometimes he disappears for days without any news. Is this normal? I don’t want to be the one who keep finding him first lest he find me annoying it is really hard work but. I’m persevering because he’s worth it thanks for the great tips!

By: oorr122

oorr122 — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 06:22:17 +0000

Typing from an iPod so forgive any spelling mistakes

By: oorr122

oorr122 — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 06:20:32 +0000

Kinda the same with me(except I don’t have a husband seeing as how I’m a guy) but there’s this spot in a city park where I lice that has a giant rock surrounded by water that people go swimming in and whatnots. My friends will want to go, and usually I’ll have no problem going I just don’t want to swim because I don’t want people to see me shirtless(I abhor the idea). So I politely tell them that I don’t want to when were there and then they make a huge deal out of it…lovely times for an introvert with two extrovert friends who are hellbent on ‘fixing’ you.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 02 Mar 2011 05:53:37 +0000

Wow! Man this really helped me out. I myself am an introvert and this was like reading a bio, you really nailed some great points. I’m trying to find how to go about asking a fellow introvert out. Trouble is since we introverts like being alone for good periods of time, or at least me haha that it’s hard to hang out one on one..hmm

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 17:55:19 +0000

Hey Travis, We have another post about introvert dating that seems almost foolproof. At worst you'd find yourself with some friends whose company you really enjoy. And if a semi-date or date comes out of it, so much the better!

By: Travis@get a date reviews

Travis@get a date reviews — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 06:34:47 +0000

I’m a pretty “close to the vest” type of guy. “under the radar”, “introvert”, whatever you want to call it. For me, being this way my whole life, I think I also have issues with rejection so I don’t ask girls out at all. I wait to be asked. Guess how that’s working? Haven’t been out in 4 years. Need a new plan.

- Travis

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 03:03:26 +0000

I can imagine that was a surprise! And it takes us a minute to think, all the while everyone is watching to see your reaction. Great tip for extroverts to remember – thanks Jennie!

By: Jennie

Jennie — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 17:52:35 +0000

I like being in control of my own environment too. If someone ask me out, I have to mull over the question for a bit to see how I feel about it.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 17:43:43 +0000

Hahaha thats funny. My ex was an extrovert and I remember I was sitting on the chatting w my friends at and suddenly this strange person totally invaded my personal space by squeezing in next to me (hips and thighs touching no less). I was mortified because all eyes were on me and I didn’t know what to do. I ended up dating him for a year, but extroverts PLEASE don’t take us by surprise and respect our personal space.

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 19:02:33 +0000

OK extroverted ladies out there – listen up! That makes sense – the ones who didn’t just run over you with their personalities were able to get a little closer.

I can see where that would work, tolerating the spotlight if you are in control of the situation. So you can give a talk in front of a group or something else you choose to do, but like me you probably don’t want someone else suddenly forcing you out there.

Thanks so much Nick for providing your insight on these things, and please come back to IntrovertZone soon!