Comments on: How introverted do I want my life to be?

By: Jason

Jason — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 23:26:35 +0000

I interact with the public where I work, which is tiring in itself. Lately, I’ve not wanted to talk to my coworkers for numerous reasons other than the fact that I just don’t like having pointless conversations – while I hate talking to customers, it’s focused and purposeful, and therefore tolerable. My coworkers always seem to bring me down in one way or another, whether by gossiping, making some kind of bigoted remark, or following up almost every innocuous sentence with “That’s what she said” or some other lame, unoriginal comment. I’m bored by these people, and what really sucks is I suffer from massive brain drain from the moment I walk into the building, so half the time I’m disinterested in the conversation and can’t even spit out a semi-coherent response. I bet my coworkers think I’m a walking idiot based on these interactions, which makes it so much harder for me to think of anything else when we do talk.

Sorry for rambling!

The best strategy I’ve been able to come up with lately is to appear to be a cold, emotionless person and then prove how nice I am in one-on-one interactions. I think some people have figured out that while I’d rather be left alone, I’m a generous, polite person when asked to do something.

By: Kierra

Kierra — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 02:54:49 +0000

I constantly struggle with trying to balance the time I spend with others and my alone time. I’m actually glad that I’m introverted but I wish other people would understand that I don’t like to be called every day or hang out with them all the time. I think my problem is that Im always trying to make other people happy and if I try to satisfy my own needs then I feel bad about it. If they want to hang out, most of the time I’ll go even though I don’t feel like it. Or if they call me alot, I’ll answer because I feel as though is rude to ignore and we almost always end up talking for hours. Ugh. Instead of trying to fix this, I tend to just smile and suffer through it. Eventually the interactions will get too overwhelming, and thats when I abruptly stop answering calls or texts but I always feel so bad about it. When I mentioned this to my mother, she told me that I was being selfish by not answering and asked me how I would feel if someone did the same thing to me or better yet, never called me at all. That made me do some soul searching. I want to talk to other people from time to time, but in all honesty, most of the time I just want be alone so when I’m around others too long, I get this throbbing headache that just doesn’t ease up. When I told her this, she took it personally, saying that when I finally move to Japan I’ll get all the alone time I ever wanted and more. Ouch! So I have to ask myself, Do I suffer through it like I’ve always done and have people loving to be around me? Or do I tell them that I need to be alone right now and risk them getting upset or feeling like I don’t like their company? I think the latter will make me happier in the long run but it’s easier said than done. Establishing boundaries in the beginning is the way to go, but how do I do this without hurting their feelings?

By: Fria@Green Powder

Fria@Green Powder — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 22:44:06 +0000

It’s a tough spot, trying to be approachable and likeable, but not being hounded. I’ve struggled a lot with what you talked about, coming to a breaking point eventually because I don’t establish good boundaries. I’m trying to learn how to say “no” graciously.
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By: laura@McCarron Lake Chiropractic

laura@McCarron Lake Chiropractic — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 08:55:45 +0000

I think that sometimes you just have to tell people how you feel. Of course it can be a little bit rude if someone asks you to hang out after work and you answer them with a “no, I would like to be alone”, try saying something like you are too tired but you’ll definitely go next time.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 01:09:56 +0000

Oh my God thank you! I do the same thing a lot. If Someone comes to me with a problem I feel the need to help them. I end up getting so emotionally caught up in it myself that I get stressed out or overwhelming myself then running away. This leads to sending mix messages which I hate as well. For awhile I just thought the cosmos had something against me lol. I also try to reason it to myself what went wrong though I can never pinpoint it though I figured maybe I just suck with girls. Lately I’ve been pondering the question if I’m even an introvert or not, but either way I feel it’s a learning experience and what you do with it helps the bigger picture. After all it’s probably how we perceive it ourselves.

By: sue

sue — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 00:22:01 +0000

I am relieved to hear that I am not the only one who is perfectly content living vicariously through someone else.

By: Alan @ Voodoo Costume

Alan @ Voodoo Costume — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 14:51:48 +0000

As I get older, I feel that I’m becoming more introverted. My desire now, as I approach 50, is to work freelance, escape the rat-race and buy a cottage miles from anywhere (I live in Yorkshire in the UK).

I can be the life and sould of a party, but then I need a week on my own to recover.

Hmm… sound kind of weird that. Might need to rethink who I am!
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Want to guest post on IntrovertZone? — Introvert Zone — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 23:40:29 +0000

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By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 21:43:58 +0000

Thanks Lucy! It’s a question I can never answer, because there are a lot of people I really like and like to be with, but I have to pace it and space it out – yet it’s not always my choice! Sometimes people get out of the habit of inviting me if I always say no. And sometimes events are just too close together if I am invited.

By: Lucy@ Whois

Lucy@ Whois — Sat, 14 Aug 2010 21:05:13 +0000

“How introverted do i want my life to be?” Very great question which i never find an answer until now! Sometimes i want people to ask me to go out with them but sometimes not, but even when i don’t want to go out with them (friendly speaking) ‘m deceived that they don’t invit me…