Comments on: How introverted do I want my life to be? http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be Fri, 18 May 2012 00:44:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Anita@Bikini Wax Video http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-8455 Anita@Bikini Wax Video Wed, 18 Apr 2012 20:31:25 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-8455 The thing that I love about this site from my limited experience with it so far is that every post I read feels as if the topic has been taken directly from my own head and address - laid bare - right there in front of me on the screen. I, much like you, wish that there was SOME way that I could manage to dial back the attention that I receive from others, be it friends, familily, or whomever else. I've always prided myself on being a good listener but as I've gotten older I've embraced being an introvert more than I did in my younger years. I love having boundries that I was once to scared to define. I now spend a lot of my time expressing myself online and through my pet project site but still wish that when I do venture out into the big, wide world I could have that same 'knob' you aspire to have that would allow me too to avoid awkward phrases like, 'Sorry - I have to go now...' I'm thoroughly enjoying this site as it is allowing me to see that I'm not only in my beliefs and feelings. I thank you dearly for that. Anita. x The thing that I love about this site from my limited experience with it so far is that every post I read feels as if the topic has been taken directly from my own head and address – laid bare – right there in front of me on the screen.

I, much like you, wish that there was SOME way that I could manage to dial back the attention that I receive from others, be it friends, familily, or whomever else. I’ve always prided myself on being a good listener but as I’ve gotten older I’ve embraced being an introvert more than I did in my younger years. I love having boundries that I was once to scared to define. I now spend a lot of my time expressing myself online and through my pet project site but still wish that when I do venture out into the big, wide world I could have that same ‘knob’ you aspire to have that would allow me too to avoid awkward phrases like, ‘Sorry – I have to go now…’

I’m thoroughly enjoying this site as it is allowing me to see that I’m not only in my beliefs and feelings. I thank you dearly for that.

Anita. x

]]> By: [INFJ] Feels like I am living in a fishbowl... http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-8251 [INFJ] Feels like I am living in a fishbowl... Sat, 31 Mar 2012 18:14:32 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-8251 [...] rings and I don't feel like talking, LOL. The funny thing is, I was just (just) reading this blog: How introverted do I want my life to be? when the doorbell rang and a neighbor with his toddler, and another child my DDs age came over to [...] [...] rings and I don't feel like talking, LOL. The funny thing is, I was just (just) reading this blog: How introverted do I want my life to be? when the doorbell rang and a neighbor with his toddler, and another child my DDs age came over to [...]

]]> By: Jenny@CPAP machines http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-7256 Jenny@CPAP machines Fri, 02 Mar 2012 04:36:33 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-7256 Sometimes it can be hard to mask my introvertness from others because I just seem so friendly and nice to others. This causes them to want to hang out and talk to me, when most of the time I just want my peace and quiet. I am sure there are many who face the same problem as me. I think your advice might work, and I might try it out soon. Sometimes it can be hard to mask my introvertness from others because I just seem so friendly and nice to others. This causes them to want to hang out and talk to me, when most of the time I just want my peace and quiet. I am sure there are many who face the same problem as me. I think your advice might work, and I might try it out soon.

]]> By: Jason http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-6345 Jason Mon, 12 Dec 2011 23:26:35 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-6345 I interact with the public where I work, which is tiring in itself. Lately, I've not wanted to talk to my coworkers for numerous reasons other than the fact that I just don't like having pointless conversations - while I hate talking to customers, it's focused and purposeful, and therefore tolerable. My coworkers always seem to bring me down in one way or another, whether by gossiping, making some kind of bigoted remark, or following up almost every innocuous sentence with "That's what she said" or some other lame, unoriginal comment. I'm bored by these people, and what really sucks is I suffer from massive brain drain from the moment I walk into the building, so half the time I'm disinterested in the conversation and can't even spit out a semi-coherent response. I bet my coworkers think I'm a walking idiot based on these interactions, which makes it so much harder for me to think of anything else when we do talk. Sorry for rambling! :) The best strategy I've been able to come up with lately is to appear to be a cold, emotionless person and then prove how nice I am in one-on-one interactions. I think some people have figured out that while I'd rather be left alone, I'm a generous, polite person when asked to do something. I interact with the public where I work, which is tiring in itself. Lately, I’ve not wanted to talk to my coworkers for numerous reasons other than the fact that I just don’t like having pointless conversations – while I hate talking to customers, it’s focused and purposeful, and therefore tolerable. My coworkers always seem to bring me down in one way or another, whether by gossiping, making some kind of bigoted remark, or following up almost every innocuous sentence with “That’s what she said” or some other lame, unoriginal comment. I’m bored by these people, and what really sucks is I suffer from massive brain drain from the moment I walk into the building, so half the time I’m disinterested in the conversation and can’t even spit out a semi-coherent response. I bet my coworkers think I’m a walking idiot based on these interactions, which makes it so much harder for me to think of anything else when we do talk.

Sorry for rambling! :)

The best strategy I’ve been able to come up with lately is to appear to be a cold, emotionless person and then prove how nice I am in one-on-one interactions. I think some people have figured out that while I’d rather be left alone, I’m a generous, polite person when asked to do something.

]]> By: Kierra http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-6269 Kierra Mon, 05 Dec 2011 02:54:49 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-6269 I constantly struggle with trying to balance the time I spend with others and my alone time. I'm actually glad that I'm introverted but I wish other people would understand that I don't like to be called every day or hang out with them all the time. I think my problem is that Im always trying to make other people happy and if I try to satisfy my own needs then I feel bad about it. If they want to hang out, most of the time I'll go even though I don't feel like it. Or if they call me alot, I'll answer because I feel as though is rude to ignore and we almost always end up talking for hours. Ugh. Instead of trying to fix this, I tend to just smile and suffer through it. Eventually the interactions will get too overwhelming, and thats when I abruptly stop answering calls or texts but I always feel so bad about it. When I mentioned this to my mother, she told me that I was being selfish by not answering and asked me how I would feel if someone did the same thing to me or better yet, never called me at all. That made me do some soul searching. I want to talk to other people from time to time, but in all honesty, most of the time I just want be alone so when I'm around others too long, I get this throbbing headache that just doesn't ease up. When I told her this, she took it personally, saying that when I finally move to Japan I'll get all the alone time I ever wanted and more. Ouch! So I have to ask myself, Do I suffer through it like I've always done and have people loving to be around me? Or do I tell them that I need to be alone right now and risk them getting upset or feeling like I don't like their company? I think the latter will make me happier in the long run but it's easier said than done. Establishing boundaries in the beginning is the way to go, but how do I do this without hurting their feelings? I constantly struggle with trying to balance the time I spend with others and my alone time. I’m actually glad that I’m introverted but I wish other people would understand that I don’t like to be called every day or hang out with them all the time. I think my problem is that Im always trying to make other people happy and if I try to satisfy my own needs then I feel bad about it. If they want to hang out, most of the time I’ll go even though I don’t feel like it. Or if they call me alot, I’ll answer because I feel as though is rude to ignore and we almost always end up talking for hours. Ugh. Instead of trying to fix this, I tend to just smile and suffer through it. Eventually the interactions will get too overwhelming, and thats when I abruptly stop answering calls or texts but I always feel so bad about it. When I mentioned this to my mother, she told me that I was being selfish by not answering and asked me how I would feel if someone did the same thing to me or better yet, never called me at all. That made me do some soul searching. I want to talk to other people from time to time, but in all honesty, most of the time I just want be alone so when I’m around others too long, I get this throbbing headache that just doesn’t ease up. When I told her this, she took it personally, saying that when I finally move to Japan I’ll get all the alone time I ever wanted and more. Ouch! So I have to ask myself, Do I suffer through it like I’ve always done and have people loving to be around me? Or do I tell them that I need to be alone right now and risk them getting upset or feeling like I don’t like their company? I think the latter will make me happier in the long run but it’s easier said than done. Establishing boundaries in the beginning is the way to go, but how do I do this without hurting their feelings?

]]> By: Fria@Green Powder http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-3838 Fria@Green Powder Thu, 04 Aug 2011 22:44:06 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-3838 It's a tough spot, trying to be approachable and likeable, but not being hounded. I've struggled a lot with what you talked about, coming to a breaking point eventually because I don't establish good boundaries. I'm trying to learn how to say "no" graciously. It’s a tough spot, trying to be approachable and likeable, but not being hounded. I’ve struggled a lot with what you talked about, coming to a breaking point eventually because I don’t establish good boundaries. I’m trying to learn how to say “no” graciously.
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]]> By: laura@McCarron Lake Chiropractic http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-3785 laura@McCarron Lake Chiropractic Fri, 29 Jul 2011 08:55:45 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-3785 I think that sometimes you just have to tell people how you feel. Of course it can be a little bit rude if someone asks you to hang out after work and you answer them with a “no, I would like to be alone”, try saying something like you are too tired but you’ll definitely go next time. I think that sometimes you just have to tell people how you feel. Of course it can be a little bit rude if someone asks you to hang out after work and you answer them with a “no, I would like to be alone”, try saying something like you are too tired but you’ll definitely go next time.

]]> By: Jonathan http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-2988 Jonathan Tue, 08 Mar 2011 01:09:56 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-2988 Oh my God thank you! I do the same thing a lot. If Someone comes to me with a problem I feel the need to help them. I end up getting so emotionally caught up in it myself that I get stressed out or overwhelming myself then running away. This leads to sending mix messages which I hate as well. For awhile I just thought the cosmos had something against me lol. I also try to reason it to myself what went wrong though I can never pinpoint it though I figured maybe I just suck with girls. Lately I've been pondering the question if I'm even an introvert or not, but either way I feel it's a learning experience and what you do with it helps the bigger picture. After all it's probably how we perceive it ourselves. Oh my God thank you! I do the same thing a lot. If Someone comes to me with a problem I feel the need to help them. I end up getting so emotionally caught up in it myself that I get stressed out or overwhelming myself then running away. This leads to sending mix messages which I hate as well. For awhile I just thought the cosmos had something against me lol. I also try to reason it to myself what went wrong though I can never pinpoint it though I figured maybe I just suck with girls. Lately I’ve been pondering the question if I’m even an introvert or not, but either way I feel it’s a learning experience and what you do with it helps the bigger picture. After all it’s probably how we perceive it ourselves.

]]> By: sue http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-2842 sue Thu, 09 Dec 2010 00:22:01 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-2842 I am relieved to hear that I am not the only one who is perfectly content living vicariously through someone else. I am relieved to hear that I am not the only one who is perfectly content living vicariously through someone else.

]]> By: Alan @ Voodoo Costume http://introvertzone.com/how-introverted-do-i-want-my-life-to-be/comment-page-1#comment-2589 Alan @ Voodoo Costume Fri, 24 Sep 2010 14:51:48 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=697#comment-2589 As I get older, I feel that I'm becoming more introverted. My desire now, as I approach 50, is to work freelance, escape the rat-race and buy a cottage miles from anywhere (I live in Yorkshire in the UK). I can be the life and sould of a party, but then I need a week on my own to recover. Hmm... sound kind of weird that. Might need to rethink who I am! As I get older, I feel that I’m becoming more introverted. My desire now, as I approach 50, is to work freelance, escape the rat-race and buy a cottage miles from anywhere (I live in Yorkshire in the UK).

I can be the life and sould of a party, but then I need a week on my own to recover.

Hmm… sound kind of weird that. Might need to rethink who I am!
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