As I’ve told you, I truly love being an introvert. I can’t describe to extroverts the elation I feel when I know I have a good long stretch of time where I can read, write, or do whatever I want. But of course I live in the real world where every day is not a normal unencumbered Saturday, so there are times when I wish I truly were like a cell phone or laptop and could just swap out my battery for a freshly charged spare I would always keep nearby. Here are four of those times:
1. Visiting family and friends. My extended family lives in a city about 150 miles away from me, and they are wonderful people. When I’m with them, I wish I could move back to be near them and just see them anytime I want. That would allow lots of casual, shorter occasions, of course. Since I live so far away, most people would assume that when we have a special weekend or holiday I would stay with some of them at least one or two days in order to have a visit that’s longer than a few hours. But I don’t, or not more than once a year. I do enjoy having a longer visit, but I feel a strong need to leave and be alone after just a few hours. If I could just swap out my battery halfway through the visit, I think it would be perfect.
2. Long meetings or interviews. I once went to a doozy of an interview where I flew to Chicago, was driven to a company’s headquarters, then was interviewed by a long string of people. By the time the fifth guy came to get me to take me to his office, I could have hardly told you my own name, much less the names of any of the people I’d talked to so far. I didn’t get that job, big surprise, 🙂 but maybe I could have done a bit better if I’d been able to put in my fresh battery right before starting the interviews.
3. Party time. If I’ve been at work with people all day, the last thing I want to do is go straight from work to an occasion where there are more people to talk to and interact with. Really, even if I had another battery to swap out, I just love to have a certain amount of alone time each day because I enjoy it! But if there was a company party or other party that I think I’d better not miss, what a great thing if I could just change out my battery right before leaving the office!
4. Working with and learning from others. There has been more than one occasion when I would have benefited my career a great deal by working more closely with someone else and learning something more advanced or at least forming more of an alliance with him. Usually the person has been nearby, willing, and very able to teach me a lot, but I just love to be alone so much that I very rarely take advantage of that kind of opportunity. In fact, I have such an opportunity coming up soon, to work one-on-one with an expert in my field, all day every day for a week. Yikes! If only I could just change out my battery sometime between the end of the morning’s work and the beginning of the small-talk lunch we’ll go to, I’d be unstoppable.
I’m very happy to be an introvert, because I find enjoyment in the simplest things and I never have to spend time with someone I don’t even like in order to feel good. I wouldn’t mind having that magic battery sometimes though. Every introvert must have his/her own occasions when they would truly like to enjoy having some extra energy to enjoy being with others. What are yours?
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