Four times it would be great if introverts had extra batteries

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As I’ve told you, I truly love being an introvert. I can’t describe to extroverts the elation I feel when I know I have a good long stretch of time where I can read, write, or do whatever I want. But of course I live in the real world where every day is not a normal unencumbered Saturday, so there are times when I wish I truly were like a cell phone or laptop and could just swap out my battery for a freshly charged spare I would always keep nearby. Here are four of those times:

1. Visiting family and friends. My extended family lives in a city about 150 miles away from me, and they are wonderful people. When I’m with them, I wish I could move back to be near them and just see them anytime I want. That would allow lots of casual, shorter occasions, of course. Since I live so far away, most people would assume that when we have a special weekend or holiday I would stay with some of them at least one or two days in order to have a visit that’s longer than a few hours. But I don’t, or not more than once a year. I do enjoy having a longer visit, but I feel a strong need to leave and be alone after just a few hours. If I could just swap out my battery halfway through the visit, I think it would be perfect.

2. Long meetings or interviews. I once went to a doozy of an interview where I flew to Chicago, was driven to a company’s headquarters, then was interviewed by a long string of people. By the time the fifth guy came to get me to take me to his office, I could have hardly told you my own name, much less the names of any of the people I’d talked to so far. I didn’t get that job, big surprise, šŸ™‚ but maybe I could have done a bit better if I’d been able to put in my fresh battery right before starting the interviews.

3. Party time. If I’ve been at work with people all day, the last thing I want to do is go straight from work to an occasion where there are more people to talk to and interact with. Really, even if I had another battery to swap out, I just love to have a certain amount of alone time each day because I enjoy it! But if there was a company party or other party that I think I’d better not miss, what a great thing if I could just change out my battery right before leaving the office!

4. Working with and learning from others. There has been more than one occasion when I would have benefited my career a great deal by working more closely with someone else and learning something more advanced or at least forming more of an alliance with him. Usually the person has been nearby, willing, and very able to teach me a lot, but I just love to be alone so much that I very rarely take advantage of that kind of opportunity. In fact, I have such an opportunity coming up soon, to work one-on-one with an expert in my field, all day every day for a week. Yikes! If only I could just change out my battery sometime between the end of the morning’s work and the beginning of the small-talk lunch we’ll go to, I’d be unstoppable.

I’m very happy to be an introvert, because I find enjoyment in the simplest things and I never have to spend time with someone I don’t even like in order to feel good. I wouldn’t mind having that magic battery sometimes though. Every introvert must have his/her own occasions when they would truly like to enjoy having some extra energy to enjoy being with others. What are yours?

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  1. I can definitely relate to the first one, all of my immediate family lives out of state. My father lives a short driving distance away so I usually visit them on Saturday and come back on Sunday. I’ll also bring my mountain bike sometimes and sneak away to hit the trails.

    My mother lives a bit further, which usually involves a plane ride. My mother is an introvert as well, so she understands.

    You should take advantage of any learning opportunity, you can always sneak away on mini breaks. If they asked you where you’ve been, just tell them you had some bad chilli.
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    • It’s great that mountain biking is a hobby of yours, so you don’t offend your dad when you go for a ride, but it’s a great refreshing break.

      You’re right – and I am going to do better and take advantage of the learning opportunities from now on. Bad chili! šŸ˜€ Hey, I’ll just say I got a phone call. They don’t know how much I would NOT be talking on the phone that long!

  2. I would love to have an extra battery on the rare occasions when we stay out of town with friends, or have friends staying at our house. Both kinds of visits exhaust me, especially staying at someone else’s house. And most people seem to think that having houseguests means doing something every minute. We have friends who think a great day is shopping for hours. I’m done after about an hour at most and get quite cranky. A battery pack for such occasions would be a huge help!
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    • A few years ago I was visiting someone in another city, and by around 10 pm I suddenly thought I must go to bed – I was exhausted. My friend showed me to the guest room, which also contained at least a hundred paperbacks on bookshelves. I took one of them to bed and found to my surprise that I soon perked right up and felt great! I read until I was sleepy, and of course I was glad to see my friend again the next morning. At the time I didn’t know what an introvert was, but I learned that little piece about myself – that I get totally exhausted when staying with others and that being alone is a great recharge! Until someone invents that extra battery pack.

      • Do you think that maybe taking in knowledge, information from books/articles/written material, is a source of energy for innies? That maybe learning something new recharges our brain and let us replenish our energies? I am experimenting with this. Perhaps this is why most innies prefer spending ‘booktime’ instead of ‘facetime’? And also when we reflect, and think about things, maybe it’s a way that we bring information into our minds and it recharges us?

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    • Yes, very nice, Nick! I think I will feel a little more relaxed knowing I have my battery with me. It may mean saying, “I’ll meet you there… I have an errand to run,” or “I’m going to bed now,” but I can make sure I have a charged battery before I’m on to the next activity.

  4. Earlier this year, I took a business trip to Tokyo with the president of my company to meet with one of our biggest distributors and attend a conference. I’m not involved in the business affairs side of the company, I work in the lab, but I’m the only one in the company that speaks any Japanese. It was a one week business trip, I was absolutely drained by day 3, and the conference still hadn’t started. I would have done anything for some extra batteries on that trip. Conferences in English are tiring enough for me, but doing it in a non-native language was miserable. We were up having meetings by 8 a.m. every morning, and I wasn’t getting back to my hotel room until 11 that night because we were having dinner and drinks with people from the conference. The sixth day, we didn’t have any meetings in the evening; so, my boss and I were on our own for dinner. I had to tell him to go on without me just so I could have a little bit of time to myself.

    • Oh DF, that week sounds like a sheer, living hell! I know your boss thought, “????” when you told him to go on without you, but good grief that was a lot of togetherness with no “me time” at all! I had a job that involved a lot of travel a few years ago, and yep, I’d go to dinner with coworkers each night because I knew it was expected, but then what I really looked forward to was digging into a legal or police thriller in my room. At the time, I did not yet know I was an introvert, so I thought that was “just me.” Now I know the book was not only enjoyable, but necessary!

  5. I’m a stay-at-home mom now and I LOVE it. But when I was working, before having kids, having an extra battery for those weekends with the in-laws would have been great. I didn’t understand myself at the time, but I really needed the weekend to recharge. It caused a lot of fights early in our marriage. It would also be nice to have one here around the holidays when it’s weekend after weekend after weekend of having to go to see family.

    • Hi Jill, Yes, I’ve had a few of those fights too, knowing that I just couldn’t bear to go somewhere but not knowing WHY I really needed that time to recharge. And yes, great point – we definitely need extra batteries around the holidays. I’m thankful to have a sweet family and friends, but the activity around Christmas was almost enough to make me have an introvert meltdown. Thanks for your comment, and please come back to Introvert Zone soon!

  6. Emily Roberts on

    For me there are three main times when I’d love to have an extra battery and a little more energy;
    1. during the twelve hour long forensics tournaments my debate team goes to on Saturdays during the school year; just two hours of sitting in a noisy, crowded high school cafeteria, punctuated by performances in front of kids you’ve never met is extraordinarily tiring; and I still have ten hours left! My friends and coach always tease me because I invariably fall asleep at the table about an hour before it’s over šŸ™‚
    2. When my family and I travel to England to visit relatives; you probably all know the feeling; running around a noisy, crowded airport for three hours before boarding a cramped, poorly ventilated plane and being inches from another human being for nearly ten solid hours, only to get off said plane in the middle of the night to drive another eight hours, again, within inches of other people the whole time, just so we can see relatives for two weeks. Just thinking of the whole ordeal makes my skin crawl!
    3. When my best friend is in the neighbourhood and comes to spend the entire weekend; don’t get me wrong, I love her to death, but she is a serious extrovert and not content to stay in the house for more than three to four hours at a stretch before needing to get out and find others. I, of course, being the good, although perhaps a little too subservient friend that I am, follow her around town as we visit all our school friends, the local park, the grocery store, everywhere within walking distance… and when you live in a town with less than 5,000 people in it, you can walk pretty much everywhere. After virtually 48 solid hours of that kind of socialising and physical exercise, I am all too ready for Monday to come around!
    Oh, if only we had our own rechargeable batteries!

  7. I get invited to concerts that are usually held on Friday nights and last way into Saturday morning. The only people I know are two of the band members, and they’re more like acquaintances. Still, I wish I could have an extra battery that would give me the energy and courage to go to at least one of their concerts on my own.

  8. I can think of three times off the top of my head when an extra battery would be great.
    1)Summer Camp. When I was younger I loved going to summer camp, doing new things, leaning somehting new, but all that time arround people constantly, the massive dorms, cafeteria, contstant group work etc. exhausted me. Definately worth it though.
    2)Long work days. I work in a call centre as a customer service representative. on a bussy day you get off one call and onto the next. Those days I get home and crash. I normaly end up sleeping straight through til my alarm goes off the next mornign. A week of this is my version of Hell.
    3)Friday night Outing. My friends B-Day is this weekend, we’re going on a pub crawl. I’m excited but this is going to kill me. Think I’ll go home after work for a nap first.

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