Comments on: Eye contact wears this introvert out – faster than anything else!

By: todieadeath

todieadeath — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 04:15:47 +0000

This is odd. I am an extreme introvert, INTP and Observer. Maybe my gaze is offensive but I feel it necessary for meaningful contact, and I find most people severely lacking in this area. Usually only family or people of the opposite sex who are interested in me give good eye contact. If it makes you nervous a good way around it is to concentrate on the space between their eyes.

By: Emily Roberts

Emily Roberts — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:28:28 +0000

It’s peculiar; I have never been very comfortable with eye contact; I can’t keep my train of thought when I’m speaking unless I look away from people, and even when they’re the ones doing the speaking, if I look into their eyes, I find myself getting distracted and unable to engage in what that person is actually saying, so most of the time I find myself looking at their face, but not into their eyes. So far I’ve gotten no comments on it, but it is something I’m conscious about, and I’m unsure about whether or not maintaining no eye contact at all is really alright.

By: cb

cb — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:32:17 +0000

I have a feeling I’m an Observer too!

By: Jewels

Jewels — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 12:07:35 +0000

I know, my mind goes blank. If I look away, I can think. Otherwise I think I am too busy being the eternal “observer” and can’t move from a moment of intake to output.

Recently I took the Discovery Insights testing at work and discovered I was not only an introvert, but I was the personality called the “Observer”. Fits me perfectly.

By: cb

cb — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 11:21:41 +0000

Wow, I’m with you! I don’t think I could come up with the simplest words if I had to do it while staring into someone’s eyes! Eyes are weird, aren’t they? It would be easier if we could think we’re looking just at someone’s face, but the eyes really get to be too much.

By: Pauline

Pauline — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 02:12:44 +0000

I just get the dreadful look in my eyes when people would stare at me for some quite time now.

By: Jewels

Jewels — Sun, 30 May 2010 12:29:17 +0000

Recently I have discovered why I am so “different” than everyone else. I am an introvert. And while this has been a relief in some aspects, it has left me with the question…Now what?

So I’ve begun reading your blog — Thank you! You’re words are a Joy to me as I don’t feel along in my family of extroverts any longer.

This particular blog hit me, at work recently, my very extroverted boss says that during meetings, I don’t maintain eye contact. And that when I don’t maintain eye contact, it makes other nervous and they don’t know what to do with themselves. I told her I couldn’t think while looking into someone’s eyes and always had to a take a moment of quiet to think. She said I had to learn. I will try and use the “Object” image next time she thinks I am supposed to be quick and witty while staring deep into someones eyes. Course I rather just wriggle my nose and disappear.

By: cb

cb — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 00:06:31 +0000

There are some people I find it very easy to have a face to face conversation with. I have a feeling they also look away – look out the window, look at this or that….and don’t just bore steadily into my eyes. You’re smart to force yourself to look into the boss’s eyes no matter what!

By: Tyler

Tyler — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 16:33:50 +0000

Wow, what an interesting find. As an extrovert myself, I have to force myself to look into eyes during a conversation, but the less I know the person the harder it is. The hardest part is my boss, which I just force myself to do.
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By: cb

cb — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 10:50:24 +0000

That’s cool that your coworkers know you and your style – and accept you. All that eye contact does feel too intrusive. Hmmm.. I’ll have to start noticing – trying to think if I ever talk to any ENFPs.