Comments on: Eye contact wears this introvert out – faster than anything else! http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else Fri, 18 May 2012 00:44:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Heather http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-8284 Heather Fri, 06 Apr 2012 00:48:44 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-8284 Jewels, I understand how hard it is having an extroverted boss. I think it is rather insensitive of her to tell you to "learn" how to look into someone's eyes. She needs to learn that as an introvert it's just not that easy!! It's too bad other people can't be more sensitive and more aware of our issues and try to be more patient and not try to change us to their "ideal" standard. Take care and good luck. Jewels,
I understand how hard it is having an extroverted boss. I think it is rather insensitive of her to tell you to “learn” how to look into someone’s eyes. She needs to learn that as an introvert it’s just not that easy!! It’s too bad other people can’t be more sensitive and more aware of our issues and try to be more patient and not try to change us to their “ideal” standard. Take care and good luck.

]]> By: Greg http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-8275 Greg Wed, 04 Apr 2012 22:08:42 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-8275 Oh btw before I found this article I came from this nightmare article that says to "focus intently on the persons face never looking away....." it took me quite a while to get over the tension I felt after reading that article lol. Here it is if you wanna see what I'm talking about http://www.trainingmag.com/article/lost-art-face-face-communication Oh btw before I found this article I came from this nightmare article that says to “focus intently on the persons face never looking away…..” it took me quite a while to get over the tension I felt after reading that article lol. Here it is if you wanna see what I’m talking about
http://www.trainingmag.com/article/lost-art-face-face-communication

]]> By: Greg http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-8274 Greg Wed, 04 Apr 2012 22:03:48 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-8274 Mother of God.... Lol I am so glad I found this article as it echos my exact circumstances to a T!! I believe I am ISFJ but I've heard other INFJ's mention a hyper awareness of others before which makes me wonder if I am more INFJ. It also makes me wonder if it's just my Social Anxiety I see a psychiatrist for though? Either way this is the absolute BIGGEST drain for me, it feels almost as intense as holding up a weight that you can't let go of or hanging from a chinup bar without being able to let go. Mother of God…. Lol I am so glad I found this article as it echos my exact circumstances to a T!! I believe I am ISFJ but I’ve heard other INFJ’s mention a hyper awareness of others before which makes me wonder if I am more INFJ. It also makes me wonder if it’s just my Social Anxiety I see a psychiatrist for though? Either way this is the absolute BIGGEST drain for me, it feels almost as intense as holding up a weight that you can’t let go of or hanging from a chinup bar without being able to let go.

]]> By: Geena http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-6889 Geena Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:57:13 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-6889 Thank you for writing this. My whole life I have tried to keep eye contact with people but just can't. I've read so much about how lack of eye contact makes a person appear dishonest and whatnot, and I feel I am an honest and caring person. Having others think I am dishonest really hurts. I am finally at a point in life where I'm beginning to feel comfortable with and understand my introversion. Thanks for the validation and the tip. I'm going to try it out. Thank you for writing this. My whole life I have tried to keep eye contact with people but just can’t. I’ve read so much about how lack of eye contact makes a person appear dishonest and whatnot, and I feel I am an honest and caring person. Having others think I am dishonest really hurts.

I am finally at a point in life where I’m beginning to feel comfortable with and understand my introversion.

Thanks for the validation and the tip. I’m going to try it out.

]]> By: hellohello http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-6603 hellohello Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:16:34 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-6603 I had no idea a site like this existed. I am an INFP, very introverted and a little socially insecure on top of that, and I was just thinking today of how I don't make much eye contact at all. I dunno about tiring, it's just kind of... uncomfortable? I feel like eye contact is just a really intimate thing, and I feel almost inappropriate for looking directly into an acquaintance's eyes. I have to sort of remember that most people don't think that way, though. I had no idea a site like this existed. I am an INFP, very introverted and a little socially insecure on top of that, and I was just thinking today of how I don’t make much eye contact at all. I dunno about tiring, it’s just kind of… uncomfortable? I feel like eye contact is just a really intimate thing, and I feel almost inappropriate for looking directly into an acquaintance’s eyes. I have to sort of remember that most people don’t think that way, though.

]]> By: Rod@Prescription Glasses http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-3402 Rod@Prescription Glasses Tue, 24 May 2011 09:36:31 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-3402 Eye contact wears you out! I must say for me, it is staring at my computer screen for up to eight hours each day. I often have a 60 minute nap in the middle of the day in order to refresh my eyes. Eye contact wears you out! I must say for me, it is staring at my computer screen for up to eight hours each day. I often have a 60 minute nap in the middle of the day in order to refresh my eyes.

]]> By: todieadeath http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-2417 todieadeath Thu, 02 Sep 2010 04:15:47 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-2417 This is odd. I am an extreme introvert, INTP and Observer. Maybe my gaze is offensive but I feel it necessary for meaningful contact, and I find most people severely lacking in this area. Usually only family or people of the opposite sex who are interested in me give good eye contact. If it makes you nervous a good way around it is to concentrate on the space between their eyes. This is odd. I am an extreme introvert, INTP and Observer. Maybe my gaze is offensive but I feel it necessary for meaningful contact, and I find most people severely lacking in this area. Usually only family or people of the opposite sex who are interested in me give good eye contact. If it makes you nervous a good way around it is to concentrate on the space between their eyes.

]]> By: Emily Roberts http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-1458 Emily Roberts Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:28:28 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-1458 It's peculiar; I have never been very comfortable with eye contact; I can't keep my train of thought when I'm speaking unless I look away from people, and even when they're the ones doing the speaking, if I look into their eyes, I find myself getting distracted and unable to engage in what that person is actually saying, so most of the time I find myself looking at their face, but not into their eyes. So far I've gotten no comments on it, but it is something I'm conscious about, and I'm unsure about whether or not maintaining no eye contact at all is really alright. It’s peculiar; I have never been very comfortable with eye contact; I can’t keep my train of thought when I’m speaking unless I look away from people, and even when they’re the ones doing the speaking, if I look into their eyes, I find myself getting distracted and unable to engage in what that person is actually saying, so most of the time I find myself looking at their face, but not into their eyes. So far I’ve gotten no comments on it, but it is something I’m conscious about, and I’m unsure about whether or not maintaining no eye contact at all is really alright.

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-1438 IntrovertZone Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:32:17 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-1438 I have a feeling I'm an Observer too! I have a feeling I’m an Observer too!

]]> By: Jewels http://introvertzone.com/eye-contact-wears-this-introvert-out-faster-than-anything-else/comment-page-1#comment-1432 Jewels Tue, 01 Jun 2010 12:07:35 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=662#comment-1432 I know, my mind goes blank. If I look away, I can think. Otherwise I think I am too busy being the eternal "observer" and can't move from a moment of intake to output. Recently I took the Discovery Insights testing at work and discovered I was not only an introvert, but I was the personality called the "Observer". Fits me perfectly. J I know, my mind goes blank. If I look away, I can think. Otherwise I think I am too busy being the eternal “observer” and can’t move from a moment of intake to output.

Recently I took the Discovery Insights testing at work and discovered I was not only an introvert, but I was the personality called the “Observer”. Fits me perfectly.

J

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