Comments on: Too much of a good thing: The exhausted introvert

By: Introverts need time alone, but we can also get lonely — Introvert Zone

Introverts need time alone, but we can also get lonely — Introvert Zone — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 19:04:07 +0000

[...] won’t leave. That feeling is totally expected for introverts, and now you’ll know that you need to break away – alone – in order to feel and function at your best. Likewise now you can understand why you may [...]

By: cb

cb — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 11:31:09 +0000

I think that’s great you expend the effort to “rest” with your friends sometimes and then you really rest on other days. I think I have lost some friendships by saying no TOO much – because in their eyes I must have just not wanted to be with them.

What a horrible assignment. Obviously those teachers had no idea what that sort of thing would feel like to an introvert.

By: Tiago

Tiago — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 21:28:55 +0000

Yeah, school just drains you out like hell. Most of my classes are concentrated in the morning and most of my friends wonder why by lunch time I just can’t concentrate on what anyone is saying (I’m usually the “Huh?” guy). What’s worse is that my friends usually want to go to the cafe after school (to “rest” as they say), which is the last thing I want to do. I go with them once or twice a week, so they don’t feel I don’t care about them, but no more than that.
The worst comes when the teachers start thinking like the the boss in the article. They once had this absolutely brilliant idea of assigning each of us a person of another class so that we hang out with said person, get to know her and then “report” about her in class. God, that was such a forced and tense interaction.

By: Emily Roberts

Emily Roberts — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 03:29:48 +0000

Well, being seventeen, I can’t say I know all that much about board meetings and such, however, they do sound a lot like a typical school day, as I’m sure those who remember can fully understand; seven and a half hours of constant human contact five days a week shatters my poor nervous system, and by the weekend, I’m ready to crawl into bed and not come out again until the following Monday! For me however, it’s worse because twice a week I have two-hour long forensics (debate) practises after school, which I love and wouldn’t miss for anything, but at the end of the day, I feel shattered, and spend the rest of the evening salvaging what alone time I can.

By: cb

cb — Sat, 15 May 2010 00:07:37 +0000

Linda, glad you found us! I was so glad to find out about introversion, and it was only a few years ago. Until then I tried and tried to figure out why I just wouldn’t want to do some things, even if I liked the people, etc. Was I ridiculously lazy? Depressed? None of those really fit. Introverted…yes.. If I’ve been to a bridal shower on Saturday I’ll definitely try to enjoy a very quiet Sunday with low- or no-effort activities!

By: Linda

Linda — Fri, 14 May 2010 23:02:48 +0000

I am so glad I came across this site! I recently discovered (hah!) that I’m not the only introvert in the world and now I don’t feel so all alone. I went through a typical situation a few weekends ago where I attended a bridal shower on Saturday and felt emotionally exhausted all day on Sunday. I had turned down another social invitation for that same Sunday because I knew I’d need time to recover from the shower. I then realized that most of my adult life I’ve tried to avoid scheduling back-to-back social events, and that I even lie about why I can’t attend a function even though my schedule might be completely open!

I’ve also had the reputation of sometimes being the life of the party, and other times sinking into the background wallpaper pattern. It depends on my emotional energy and my enthusiasm for whatever topics are being discussed at the times.

Thanks for starting up this site. I look forward to reading the rest of your posts.

By: Bella

Bella — Thu, 13 May 2010 11:46:48 +0000

Hahaha! Thanks for the good wishes!

By: cb

cb — Wed, 12 May 2010 22:38:33 +0000

That really is tough, no matter what your personality type! It’s too bad though, since it’s a good match for you. You couldn’t “inform” your sister that she’ll be taking care of the animals, huh. Just kidding – even if I thought I could make it through that three weeks, I’d be suspicious that there would be MORE trips to the home office over the coming months and years.

Good luck though – I hope you find something perfect for you!

By: Bella

Bella — Wed, 12 May 2010 11:43:59 +0000

I’m job hunting and working with a recruiting firm. There’s a job that is a pretty good match for me that they’re having trouble filling…but I can’t do it. It requires spending 3 weeks straight at the home office in another state, for training. No way could I be away from my animals and home for that long…and I would bet most people would find that tough.

By: cb

cb — Wed, 12 May 2010 11:10:39 +0000

That sounds like a true hell on earth! A few years ago I worked for a company that insisted we fly to other divisions to spend one week each month, and every time I’d ask exactly what is the business need for this I’d hear that it was “face time.” WHAT? I never did get any of the idiots to explain how the company would make more money because they caused me to miss a week of my life each month displaying my tired, reluctant face to people in other states. I’m glad you’re out of there – and I hope someday people can be a little more aware that not everyone is enjoying the long hours of “face time!”