Comments on: Too much of a good thing: The exhausted introvert

By: Usman

Usman — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:56:55 +0000

In my humble opinion, you should have defined extroverts and introverts..
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By: Asavari

Asavari — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 08:08:36 +0000

You may have read that many people here have been described as ‘the life of the party’ and that they’ve become adept at ‘faking it’ — so yes, we do lots of behavior modification. What we’re talking about is an emotional state. About not much LIKING having to engage with others constantly. Who said anything about having stuff handed to them? Ridiculous, simplistic argument.

By: Mich

Mich — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 07:12:26 +0000

My boyfriend is the same exact way and it drives me insane especially when he wants me to join some of his “parties” to see his friends once in a while. My ideal image of catching up with old friends is over a nice dinner, board games, and some wine. Theirs is a row of shots, dancing, music, karaoke, and all things imaginable that you cannot go to daydream mode to conserve energy. We would get into fights a lot because I cannot handle the crowd and the length of time that I must endure the pain. Over time though the best thing that helped us manage was my constant reminder that, introverts are extremely sensitive and observant and we take up so much information that it’s exhausting. We don’t mean to be rude or snobby in any way to others, it’s just how we are and just like how he finds it relaxing to go out and socialize. For introverts it’s more relaxing to settle down and filter out the information from our heads that we’ve taken up from the day. Just like how people like watching rock concerts vs orchestras, we all enjoy different ways of relaxing and they must respect that.

By: Mivh

Mivh — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 07:03:15 +0000

Being an introvert is exhausting and at the same time is a difficult hurdle when you’re in a city where there’s always a person dying to connect with you. I’m glad I have developed over the years where I could take to new people and introduce myself better but I may still be mum over a few minutes in a party (even a dinner party!). I have no problem with being at a simple get together where you can talk to a people one-on-one but after a while I must escape for a bit to be alone, usually my excuse would be to start cooking dinner or cleaning up the room from the evening.

I’m glad I’m not the only person who feels exhausted, I’m around many extroverts who feel as if I may be rude to them or just didn’t get enough sleep for a party/meeting. I really do dislike the meetings as you have said above since I get really burnt out and cranky as you cannot excuse yourself from being part of a “bonding” activity as such above hosted by strong social personalities.

By: michele L

michele L — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 15:54:57 +0000

I just discovered this, and boy do I agree with it. Used to wonder what was wrong with me – I’d be out having a fabulous time with my friends, get home, feel completely drained, depressed, and have a meltdown. It wasn’t pretty. None of my friends had problems hanging out or making small talk. They all thought I was too intellectual, and got labelled as the girl who was trying to act smart. So I hid myself.

Then someone passed me a book “The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World”, and it clicked. I was not weird. I was normal, just wired differently from 3/4 of the world. (Ok, that qualifies us as abnormal, but not psycho or in need of counselling.)

So anyway, yes I’ve been relishing in my new-found freedom, and I really do agree with the exhaustion that can arise from continuously being around people. Makes me really happy that I work reasonably near a river, so when there’s too much external stimuli, that’s a place to escape to! Just to clarify, I’m not suicidal, just that the pattern of waves swishing along the embankments is fantastically therapeutic.

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 02:39:17 +0000

I have always wondered why I could never understand why being with people was so exhausting to me while others seemed to thrive. I always felt somehow, inferior, for the way I am. I have been told many times to just ‘get over it’ or ‘just try’ or ‘put more effort into it’ and other similar and more derogetory coments along the same vein. It’s reasuring to know I’m not alone in this. Balancing school, work, friends, and a relationship is difficult. Recently my job changed from a data entry clerk, which I absolutely adored as it allowed me to simply focus on my work and concentrate without constant socialization, to a call centre representative. I’m good at it, have always been good with people, good at problem solving when needed. By the end of the day though, all I can do is shut down, I’m exhausted and don’t even want to think about talking on the phone, or going to the bar. By the end of the week all I want is to be left alone. This is a concept my highly extroverted boyfriend just does not understand. He is someone who gets ‘bored’ as he puts it on a 45 minuite drive from work to home and calls because he’s lonely. The fact that I just want some peace and that the sound of a phone ringing signaling the potential for another 20 minuites to an hour spent talking with someone is enough to make me cry (literaly). After a night at the bar, or out with friends I need to go home and recharge while he is ready for an all night party, followed by breakfast, movies, maybee another outing. I can’t seem to get accross to him that I simply cannot handle this, it will literaly send me into an anxiety attack if I can’t take the time to recharge. Anyone have any ideas how to explain introversion to an extrovert?

By: Christy

Christy — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 01:12:17 +0000

Recent research has discovered that introversion and extraversion have bases in brain chemistry. I believe this person is not for real. That is all.

By: X

Fri, 01 Jul 2011 18:17:19 +0000

Why are you people acting like being an introvert is some kind of disease you can’t change or something? Do you think it’s any easier for other people to be extroverts? No they just actually try to be outgoing which is why everything is easier for them because they don’t sit there quietly not talking to anyone and expect things to be handed to them. They don’t just not even try to be a socially likable person while you just look for any excuse to not have to try at anything in life.

By: MyAngelJuice

MyAngelJuice — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 20:34:36 +0000

Is that why I am so drained at in social situations? I just got home from school and googled ” get exhausted when too many people are talking.” lol. I already made an appointment to see the doctor about my lack of energy during the day.. (or around other people).

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 00:25:23 +0000

Amanda- I completely agree with you about work. I’m so tired of feeling like I have no choices. Either I play nice and smile while my coworkers tell me every detail of their lives, thus maintaining a good relationship, but lowering my productivity. Or I smile, nod and turn back to my computer and ignore them, in this case, I get my work done, but am perceived as unfriendly. This is especially hard when you’re the “newbie” and want to make a good impression.

I’m so glad I found this site. It’s great to know I’m not alone in my thoughts and feelings.