Comments on: Don’t ask this introvert to repeat herself

By: u2good

u2good — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 22:57:15 +0000

I work with a woman who is a big time introvert. Her reticence had me so exasperated that I finally did some research on it. Now I know why she has been practically begging my supervisor for telecommute/telework. It has also explained other issues, like why she sends me one line emails when she could easily just speak it to me, or why she makes such borderline bitchy comments to me when I ask her mundane questions like How are you? I wish you introverts would try better to explain what you’re feeling or why. I can try to accomodate her, but her words can be downright bitchy and hateful. No apologies or explanations — she just retreats into her world as as I go away dejected. There are just times where we need to talk at work. But because she doesn’t try, I no longer try, and we go for days without speaking even though we sit next to each other and are supposed to work together.

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 17:53:51 +0000

So I ended up on this site not because I hate repeating myself but because my husband does. We have 2 kids and although I always had a bad memory problem I feel like its gotten worse after having 2 kids under the age of 3. How do you guys deal with having your significant other having to make you repeat yourself. I feel like I pay as much attention as I can but I often find myself asking him if he’s working the next day when I had already asked him according to him. I truly don’t remember if I did or not. The arguments get bad because he feels as if I’m not paying attention to him but I really am I just don’t remember for some reason. I’m probably the one with the problem since I haven’t exceed in school since my junior year in high school due to memory problems and short attention span. All my grandmother’s sisters and brothers have died from alzheimer’s so sometimes I worry that that has something to do with my having to make people repeat themselves. So yeah how do you cope with people like me that are really close to you and you can’t just get on a plane and leave a city to get away from them. Thanks in advance.

By: Jaime @triangle eyecare

Jaime @triangle eyecare — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 21:05:35 +0000

OK, I do marketing for an optometrist’s office and this site came up on a search I was doing. I have to show this to my doctor. You would not believe how much the two of you have in common….but obviously he didn’t withdraw but he is so more analytically minded and (even though he cares) he sometimes comes across as sullen when in fact, I think he’s just a bit introverted. Great post!

By: Bob@Eye Doctor Hollywood Fl

Bob@Eye Doctor Hollywood Fl — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 20:24:35 +0000

I don’t usually mind repeating myself as long as I’m still having the first conversation about a topic with someone. What really drives me nuts is when I have to tell someone something 3 or 4 times and they still don’t get it. When it gets to that point watch out!

By: Terence

Terence — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 15:25:34 +0000

What if the person that asked you to repeat yourself really was listening, but they just couldn’t hear you. Then you don’t repeat yourself, because you say something like “oh it just wasn’t important”. Do you think that the person listening is now annoyed?

By: Armil@ new career

Armil@ new career — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 05:11:25 +0000

Yes I totally agreed about your post. We are just afraid to make mistake or afraid to do other things aside from what are we doing recently.
I truly believe also the saying: “one word is enough for a wise man”. no need to repeat what you had been talk or done. I really hate it.

By: JW

JW — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 21:38:16 +0000

I hate to sound unsympathetic, but maybe people really just can’t hear you. I don’t like to repeat myself that much either, but if someone simply can’t hear me at the volume at which I am speaking, and if I can’t hear someone when they say something to me, even when I am really putting in an effort to listen, then I’m sorry, but I will have to ask that person to repeat what they said. And you said that you have a very soft voice and in addition to that, you deliberately keep your voice low, so I am sure that there are people who will definitely have a harder time hearing everything that you say, even if they are really making the effort to listen to you at your natural speaking volume. Even though I don’t like speaking a lot, when I do speak, I try to make sure to keep my voice at a level that will be heard by the person with whom I am conversing.

By: fano

fano — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 08:45:54 +0000

Thanks for sharing this article.
I am an introverted person, and I have been looking to find a suitable career for my future. On one website, optometry was a career suggested for introverted people. I was not sure wheather IT or Optometry was more introvert-friendly. After reading your experience, I am better informed.

Thanks,

By: How introverted do I want my life to be? — Introvert Zone

How introverted do I want my life to be? — Introvert Zone — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 22:45:48 +0000

[...] One obvious answer is – I could be nice and even approachable at all times, but know how to say “no” gracefully without feeling guilt and without getting annoyed. That was easy to write, but when I don’t want to be bothered, I really don’t want to be asked. Especially if the other person won’t take no for an answer. [...]

By: IntrovertZone

IntrovertZone — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 00:53:39 +0000

Yes, we don’t know what to do next – SCREAM or just say NEVER MIND!