Comments on: Don’t analyze an introvert or make him the center of attention http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention Sun, 05 Feb 2012 01:14:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Joshah http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-5208 Joshah Fri, 30 Sep 2011 01:33:15 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-5208 I can relate. I love the fact that the feelings have finally been put into words and I just hope that everyone would get a chance to read this to be able to understand each other better. I really hate being forced to participate in something that I don't enjoy. But very well written. Perhaps being an introvert may have something to do with inferiority complex when one tries to compare himself with an extrovert? Either way, I've learned to participate when forced from time to time but I never fail to assess the situation beforehand. I can relate. I love the fact that the feelings have finally been put into words and I just hope that everyone would get a chance to read this to be able to understand each other better. I really hate being forced to participate in something that I don’t enjoy. But very well written. Perhaps being an introvert may have something to do with inferiority complex when one tries to compare himself with an extrovert? Either way, I’ve learned to participate when forced from time to time but I never fail to assess the situation beforehand.

]]> By: Edward http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-3792 Edward Sat, 30 Jul 2011 04:56:48 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-3792 I find that introverts are very similar to cats... I find that introverts are very similar to cats…

]]> By: Christy http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-3598 Christy Tue, 05 Jul 2011 01:52:11 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-3598 I do have to say that the picture you put at the top of this entry made me extremely agitated. I had to cover it up with my hand while I was reading the article. Quite fascinating. I do have to say that the picture you put at the top of this entry made me extremely agitated. I had to cover it up with my hand while I was reading the article. Quite fascinating.

]]> By: Christy http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-3597 Christy Tue, 05 Jul 2011 01:50:13 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-3597 I'm the introvert who loves to analyze people. It's one of my favorite things to do. I don't mind being analyzed, either. But I'm not going to be nosy, snoop in people's things, and analyze them so I can make them feel uncomfortable. My analytical abilities have come in handy in a situation or two, but, in true introvert style, I try not to make them obtrusive. I also don't mind being the center of attention under certain circumstances. I dress in a way that makes me stand out quite often, I like to act, and I have no problem being called upon or speaking up in classes or meetings where I'm interested in the subject matter. But I do like to more or less be in control of the times when I'm going to have eyes on me. I’m the introvert who loves to analyze people. It’s one of my favorite things to do. I don’t mind being analyzed, either. But I’m not going to be nosy, snoop in people’s things, and analyze them so I can make them feel uncomfortable. My analytical abilities have come in handy in a situation or two, but, in true introvert style, I try not to make them obtrusive.
I also don’t mind being the center of attention under certain circumstances. I dress in a way that makes me stand out quite often, I like to act, and I have no problem being called upon or speaking up in classes or meetings where I’m interested in the subject matter. But I do like to more or less be in control of the times when I’m going to have eyes on me.

]]> By: Jonathan http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-2984 Jonathan Mon, 07 Mar 2011 11:25:53 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-2984 Heyo! I feel the same exact way. I even have one particular friend who tells me he likes to analyze me (if that didn't make me feel any weirder). Me personally I'm somewhat of a walking contradiction. Being the center of attention can really go either way for me. 95% of the time though I will usually have anxiety as soon as that social spotlight is thrown on me, but I'm trying to work on it. As a career I would lllloovvvee to be an actor. This has it's pros and cons. One of the pros is I love to act. I believe being able to express emotion via the body and through story while making it all entertaining is great. My dream would be to make people laugh and feel good as my job. The con though is that center of attention feel though. When in a small group of friends sometimes they all will stare at me as if I know what to do next. Out of fear/anxiety of what to say I usually just blurt out subconsciously "Okay" or "Alright then." But for a short time after the situation I feel the need to breathe a little deeper and attempt to calm down. Going back to acting though I think it's half of me that says "Hey if this is what you truely want to do and how you truely feel then get up there!" that being said as soon as I get that little bit of confidence the proceeding thought rushes in "Yeah but then it's a tough competition out there. It's a job where all eyes are on you. What you show is what you are paid for." Over the span on my life I think I've been slowly introducing myself to my fantasy career though. I was in a couple school plays (both times walking on stage felt my heart lodged in my throat and butterflies in my stomach.) Also just other small instances of performances where I wasn't particularly the spotlight but was on stage. I love drama in fact I feel less weird on stage than I do off of it. But what I find just perplexing is how badly I want to do it and the irrational fear of any success bringing attention to myself. Heyo! I feel the same exact way. I even have one particular friend who tells me he likes to analyze me (if that didn’t make me feel any weirder). Me personally I’m somewhat of a walking contradiction. Being the center of attention can really go either way for me. 95% of the time though I will usually have anxiety as soon as that social spotlight is thrown on me, but I’m trying to work on it. As a career I would lllloovvvee to be an actor. This has it’s pros and cons. One of the pros is I love to act. I believe being able to express emotion via the body and through story while making it all entertaining is great. My dream would be to make people laugh and feel good as my job. The con though is that center of attention feel though. When in a small group of friends sometimes they all will stare at me as if I know what to do next. Out of fear/anxiety of what to say I usually just blurt out subconsciously “Okay” or “Alright then.” But for a short time after the situation I feel the need to breathe a little deeper and attempt to calm down. Going back to acting though I think it’s half of me that says “Hey if this is what you truely want to do and how you truely feel then get up there!” that being said as soon as I get that little bit of confidence the proceeding thought rushes in “Yeah but then it’s a tough competition out there. It’s a job where all eyes are on you. What you show is what you are paid for.” Over the span on my life I think I’ve been slowly introducing myself to my fantasy career though. I was in a couple school plays (both times walking on stage felt my heart lodged in my throat and butterflies in my stomach.) Also just other small instances of performances where I wasn’t particularly the spotlight but was on stage. I love drama in fact I feel less weird on stage than I do off of it. But what I find just perplexing is how badly I want to do it and the irrational fear of any success bringing attention to myself.

]]> By: IntrovertZone http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-1699 IntrovertZone Sat, 10 Jul 2010 22:47:00 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-1699 Very good points that we should be true to our natural personalities without feeling bad about it! When it comes to stopping the show and pointing at us though, I still think it's rude and annoying. Introverts love to observe situations before jumping in, and I wanted to tell the world that that preference is valid and should not be ridiculed or discouraged. Some adults can be particularly bad about putting the spotlight on a child who is actually just about to join a group, and I'm hoping they can learn to restrain their natural tendency to think before talking. ;) Very good points that we should be true to our natural personalities without feeling bad about it!

When it comes to stopping the show and pointing at us though, I still think it’s rude and annoying. Introverts love to observe situations before jumping in, and I wanted to tell the world that that preference is valid and should not be ridiculed or discouraged. Some adults can be particularly bad about putting the spotlight on a child who is actually just about to join a group, and I’m hoping they can learn to restrain their natural tendency to think before talking. ;)

]]> By: Wolf http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-1693 Wolf Fri, 09 Jul 2010 13:56:06 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-1693 I have an answer for you. I used to be an intovert perhaps I still in that I am not an outgoing person. However should I become the center of attention I'm anything it simply no longer bothers me. I do not care. Looking back there are many reasons I did not like to be noticed and most of them stemed from this idea I did not want people to figure out who the reals was. One because I felt I did not understand anyone else so how could they understand me It may not be true for all intoverts but a large step in living normally is accepting who you are and bieng yourself. If some people seem to not like you who cares? You can not please everyone on this planet. In fact you may find there are simply people you do not like. It's a two way street. Just be yourself. Talk if you want do not talk if you do not want. You will be rejected by some people in your life no matter what you do no matter who you are I have an answer for you. I used to be an intovert perhaps I still in that I am not an outgoing person. However should I become the center of attention I’m anything it simply no longer bothers me. I do not care. Looking back there are many reasons I did not like to be noticed and most of them stemed from this idea I did not want people to figure out who the reals was. One because I felt I did not understand anyone else so how could they understand me It may not be true for all intoverts but a large step in living normally is accepting who you are and bieng yourself. If some people seem to not like you who cares? You can not please everyone on this planet. In fact you may find there are simply people you do not like. It’s a two way street. Just be yourself. Talk if you want do not talk if you do not want. You will be rejected by some people in your life no matter what you do no matter who you are

]]> By: Too much of a good thing: The exhausted introvert — Introvert Zone http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-1362 Too much of a good thing: The exhausted introvert — Introvert Zone Wed, 12 May 2010 22:35:58 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-1362 [...] and how each of us would work in a team with various others. He called on me many times, and I resented him for pushing me that way, but I knew the answers to his questions so I still thought all was well. Around 2 pm [...] [...] and how each of us would work in a team with various others. He called on me many times, and I resented him for pushing me that way, but I knew the answers to his questions so I still thought all was well. Around 2 pm [...]

]]> By: JW http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-146 JW Sat, 12 Sep 2009 22:21:14 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-146 xen, that's great that you feel comfortable speaking up for yourself. That's one thing that I have always had trouble doing. I usually just let my feelings build up over time, which definitely isn't good. But I have learned a lot over the past year on how to be more assertive, so that I can better handle situations that may arise. xen, that’s great that you feel comfortable speaking up for yourself. That’s one thing that I have always had trouble doing. I usually just let my feelings build up over time, which definitely isn’t good. But I have learned a lot over the past year on how to be more assertive, so that I can better handle situations that may arise.

]]> By: JW http://introvertzone.com/dont-analyze-an-introvert-or-make-him-the-center-of-attention/comment-page-1#comment-145 JW Sat, 12 Sep 2009 22:17:08 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=213#comment-145 Yeah, I just felt like I could no longer respect this individual because of what seemed like her need to torment me and not take me seriously. So when I mocked her, it was based on built up frustration over time, and that action on my part was sort of the end result of being ridiculed by her on more than one occasion. cb, I totally understand, and I was very accomodating to her personality and the fact that she loved attention, but when I finally came to the conclusion that she was trying to torment me because of my own personality, that's when I stopped being as tolerant with her. I'm usually very tolerant and respectful of other people's personalities, quirks, habits, because I realize that everybody is different, but my tolerance level wore very thin with this individual. Yeah, I just felt like I could no longer respect this individual because of what seemed like her need to torment me and not take me seriously. So when I mocked her, it was based on built up frustration over time, and that action on my part was sort of the end result of being ridiculed by her on more than one occasion.

cb, I totally understand, and I was very accomodating to her personality and the fact that she loved attention, but when I finally came to the conclusion that she was trying to torment me because of my own personality, that’s when I stopped being as tolerant with her. I’m usually very tolerant and respectful of other people’s personalities, quirks, habits, because I realize that everybody is different, but my tolerance level wore very thin with this individual.

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