Do introverts and crowded restaurants mix?


An introvert submitted this question to see how other introverts feel about being seated very close to other parties at restaurants – so close that every word is audible to others.

Am I the only person who doesn’t like being on top of people, for lack of a better term. I always go to restaurants anyways, but I don’t like that I have to hear everyone’s conversations. Mostly, I don’t like that everyone can hear me too! I notice that I talk a little more quietly and think a little bit more self-consciously about what topics come up.

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  1. You’re not the only one! I hate crowds, and I’m always guarded about what I say when in public. It’s one of the reasons I don’t have a mobile phone.

  2. I know EXACTLY what you mean! My wife always has a hard time trying to understand what I’m saying when we’re in a restaurant; she says I’m just too quiet. I actually hadn’t given it much thought but I now realize I just don’t want people to hear what I am saying.

  3. You are not alone! I can’t stand crowds in general. I can handle going to a festival as long as I’m not stuck in one spot surrounded by a lot of loud people. I just don’t like loudness, it drives me crazy. My husband and I tend to eat out with the “blue hairs” for this reason, we go when all the old people eat which is early. We don’t have children and I don’t mean to be rude, but being seated next to a family is my worst nightmare because usually the kids are loud and obnoxious, plus the parents are usually yelling at the kids nonstop during the entire meal. I try to avoid crowds.

    • Just like you said it.

      Not only that I hate that people can hear me, I also hate the fact that I’m forced to listen to them!

      If a parent repeats to their child the same thing over and over again, it will definitely ruin my meal since I don’t have a choice to ignore that.

  4. You are so right! I feel the same way, I hate it when everyone shouting around and I can’t hear anything. and yes- sometime it feel that some of the people came just to listen to others!
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  5. I don’t like being in crowded, noisy places, either. I am already quite self-conscious and being in a crowded place, makes my anxiety level go way up, to the point where it is difficult for me to stay in the moment and enjoy myself. I like to enjoy my food when I am in a restaurant, but I usually can’t do that when I feel uncomfortable with the environment. And it’s not just some kids who are loud and obnoxious, there are a lot of adults who act the same way, being loud and imposing themselves on everyone else with their loud laughing, talking, and generally big mouths. More often it’s the adults rather than the kids, because there are some kids, especially the quiet ones who become embarrassed by their parents behavior as well.

  6. This is a very interesting character. In my case I only don’t like too crowded parties but near people in restaurants, I don’t mind it. Just try to find a restaurant that does not really have so many people in it.

  7. It always helps for introverts to have people around them to get them used to the scenario. It would make them feel at ease in the end when they get to see more people around them. It is always fun to have crowded restaurants but sometimes it is not really my thing but I am not that introverted. Just a bit!

  8. I have to say that it does make me uncomfortable when you can hear every word from the next table. Dining out, in my opinion, should be an intimate experience with the occasional interjection by the wait staff to take your order. A busy restaurant is sometimes quite nice as it adds atmosphere to the occasion but I draw the line at sitting on my neighbours lap!

  9. You have to choose your restaurants wisely. I generally don’t go to eat where there are crowds. I like quiet cozy places where I can hear myself think and have a nice conversation if i am with someone. If it is crowded I’m usually there just to people watch and have pretty much prepared myself for loud bantering around me. Sometimes I’m just interested in how the human species interacts in certain social settings

  10. Thankfully I enjoy cooking and baking. I hate crowds and typically avoid restaurants on Fridays, weekends, and especially Valentines Day.

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