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Introvert Traits

Introverted reader avoids others, worried that she’s boring them

Here’s a question from a reader who’s been quiet since she was small, but since she didn’t make lasting relationships is starting to actively avoid others because by now she feels shy and worries that she’s boring them: i dont know if i am suffering or its jst me. i hav been shy an quiet [...]

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An introvert asks: How to think clearly in the presence of too many people!

An introvert submitted a question which is a familiar challenge to a lot of us. We can have a fine conversation with one, or even two people, but then when it becomes a larger group we may find ourselves totally quiet. We may relax and enjoy listening or we may be unhappy because the large [...]

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A reader asks for help: She dreads talking to and seeing others – even loved ones.

A reader sent in this request for help and advice. I’m not a psychologist but I thought there may be some of you who have experienced similar problems and might have some good suggestions for her. And at the least, we can offer her our support and encouragement while she continues with her therapy. I [...]

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An Extrovert Asks: How to relate to his introverted girlfriend

An extrovert submitted the following question. This is a pretty common situation, where a couple is mixed introvert/extrovert and the extrovert almost drives the introvert away by trying to get reassurance about the relationship’s status or find out what the other person wants. Well, to make this long story short I believe my gf is [...]

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An Introvert Asks: How to break a cycle of overpowering loneliness

This was actually a comment by a guy named Scott on the post about loneliness and introverts, and he’s had a lot of good responses, but I knew that many of you are subscribers and would not know about the new comment on the older post. It’s a great question and I know a lot [...]

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An Introvert Asks: How has society’s view of introverts changed over the decades?

An introvert emailed me because she was about to embark on some research. I’ve been always a proud introvert, although hasn’t been easy in the society we live in, where the extravert type of person is idealized everywhere. I am about to start a research on how introverts (since this term was introduced by Carl [...]

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An Introvert Asks: How to explain introversion to others

An introvert sent me a message asking, “How do you explain being introvert to people? I’d like to try explain why I tend to be different in a large group of people compared to when its just me and him.” What a great question. I told her that when I was in college I was [...]

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An Introvert Asks: How to find other introverts to be friends with when you’re new in town

An introvert named Patrick in southeastern New England emailed me with this question, and I think a lot of us have probably wondered the same thing – how to find those needles in a haystack, those high-quality friendships, when we’re totally new in town? I very recently moved away from home for the first time [...]

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An Introvert Asks: What would be ideal jobs for introverts?

An introvert named Paul sent me a message asking what sort of jobs would be best for introverts. Although I’m sure there are happy introverts in every sort of position, I did tell him that I myself would prefer something one-on-one like counselor, or just working alone, like writing or doing very technical work in [...]

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An Introvert Asks: First dates for introverts?

An introvert emailed me this question, and I think it’s one that a lot of single introverts or singles who would like to date an introvert may wonder about: I was just wondering if anyone had good ideas for what to do on a first date. I find the traditional dinner and a movie or [...]

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An introvert asks: Suburban Introvert: Can I survive in a city?

The following was sent to me by a male college student: Dear Introvert Zone, I’m considering moving to Cleveland, OH after I finish my schooling. I don’t drive, and the only hospital that can treat me is in Cleveland, OH (The Cleveland Clinic). This is a long time from now, years in fact, but it [...]

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An extrovert asks: How do I become more of an introvert?

I had a question in my inbox that really made my day last Thursday. It was from a guy who asked the following: How do I become more of an introvert? I can’t seem to think before I speak, for example, and it gets me in trouble. And I’m an adult, so I should be [...]

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