Comments on: Be nice to your introverted family members – they’ll be there when you need them

By: geo@http://storagesydney.net

geo@http://storagesydney.net — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 18:31:45 +0000

–> This has something to do with human characteristics in psychology.
introvert means a person is usually shy, timid, keeping things to himself. he talks but reserved while extrovert is someone who likes to talk to people, friendly, speaks his mind, outgoing, likes meeting new people.

By: cielle from Storage Sydney

cielle from Storage Sydney — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 07:32:23 +0000

Whether you’re introvert or extrovert as long as you know who you are, that’s fine.

By: Christy

Christy — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 02:19:33 +0000

I honestly don’t think responsibility/maintaining commitments is an introvert-extravert issue but a judging-perceiving issue, as described in the Myers-Briggs analysis. Some people have a greater capacity to let life flow around them and to take whatever comes in this moment (perceivers), and others have a greater capacity to structure life and follow up on things they’ve agreed to. Perceiving introverts can be just as irresponsible as perceiving extraverts, and judging extraverts can be just as inflexible as judging introverts.
That said, your first situation would drive me absolutely bonkers.

By: dondig

dondig — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 17:33:01 +0000

Extroverts will do anything they can to feed their constant need for stimulation from others. If that means being the super helpful one that’s there for everyone, the life of the party, or the fashion plate, whatever it is that will garner them the most attention and admiration from others they will do it. They have to. As much as introverts need their alone time, extroverts need to be social or out and about in the outside world most of the time. I see this in my husband who insists on some sort of social or out and about activity with others every single weekend. He is almost incapable of spending a quiet evening at home. He is constantly talking either to me or on the phone with someone. He is relaxed in the company of others and tense when alone for too long. He always has to be the last to leave a party because he feels he’s going to miss out on something. I’m glad I’m not an extrovert because it seems terrible to be so reliant on strokes from others. I need company as well, but many extroverts well seek company for company’s sake even among those they don’t like as much.

By: benjamin@self storage sydney

benjamin@self storage sydney — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 07:13:08 +0000

i’m not that familiar with these terms “introvert” and “extrovert” so i’ve found this article (and the comments that follow) really interesting. now i better understand the difference, i would say i am kind of unique in being both kinds of “verts”.. depending on the time, season, mood and place…. is that possible? strange? i don’t know. it’s just me.

By: self storage cumming

self storage cumming — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:00:40 +0000

This post sounds like you’re talking about me and my brother. I’m the introvert while he’s the extrovert. I hardly go out while he’s got a large circle of friends and practically knows everyone. But when it comes to reliability and getting things done, it’s me that my family turns to. My brother just spreads himself too thin among all his commitments that it takes him forever to get around to doing things. Thanks for pointing out this introvert trait.
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By: JW

JW — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 05:45:21 +0000

Hi cb, yeah I do think that many people who are always committing themselves to help others are definitely seeking the adulation that they think will come along with behaving that way. The guy that I used in my example in my other post was definitely seeking the adulation. I heard him say a few times that people relied on him to get things done (talk about someone stroking his own ego) He acted like some kind of martyr, when really,from what I gathered, no one really wanted him to go out of his way. There were a couple of times when he would agree to do something for someone and then after he had fulfilled the request, he would complain to me about having done it. And I’m thinking to myself, “Well why did you do it then”. But that’s the thing, his narcissistic NEED for adulation was more important than actually saying no to a request. He’d put on a fake smile and take on a task and then afterward, he would complain about being overworked and never having time for himself. So any stress he felt was of his own doing. One time I had a talk with him and told him that he needed to stop running himself ragged and he looked at me like I was speaking an alien tongue instead of English. If a person acts like he’s always ready to take on task, then that’s how others will view that person. Then that person wonders why they he or she always gets taken advantage of, when really it’s of his or her own doing.

By: JW

JW — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 01:03:28 +0000

xen, that’s very true, too. Some of them aren’t narcissistic and I definitely don’t want to make it seem like all of them are highly narcissistic or anything like that. Some of them just seek a lot of approval and will go out of their way to take on many commitments, even if it means making promises that they know they won’t be able to carry out. As you stated, they are mainly doing it for recognition.

By: xen

xen — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 00:28:50 +0000

I think cb’s examples are very mild. Your example is also very interesting too, but I those extroverts who aren’t narcissistic, they are so hooked on getting approval from others they constantly “help” people to show they are “helpful”. And they mainly “help” when they can get group recognition.

By: xen

xen — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 00:26:31 +0000

I kind of have two main reactions when I try to explain and be diplomatic with extroverts. They either find me being the pushy and demanding one; or they show they truly understand, but forget their understanding the next day.

Those who actually try, but forget can sometimes be the most annoying, as they give you some kind of false hope.