Comments on: Asking an introvert for an outrageous favor may make him hate you http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you The blog of a happy introvert! Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:24:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: mellowknees http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-1125 mellowknees Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:06:28 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-1125 Oh WOW do I identify with this post - particularly that first example. I am the "computer person" for my office, and I cannot tell you how many times I've been asked to fix someone's personal computer (as if it's my HOBBY) and then told "Oh, we'll fix you dinner!" Yes, because what I'm really lacking in my personal life are meals, certainly not time to myself! I have managed to shrug people off when they've asked this of me, but I always feel irritated, and I know that many of them have thought that I am a horrible bitch for not helping them. Frankly, I don't care. If they knew someone who was a good mechanic, they would go to the mechanic's shop and then pay him/her for the work, even if the mechanic was a friend. They would never think to call him in the middle of the night and offer a meal in exchange for a new transmission. I love being an introvert, but I hate that 75% of the world doesn't seem to understand me, or care to try. .-= mellowknees´s last blog ..<a href="http://nrrdgrrl.net/nonsense/2010/03/17/how-to-have-a-pimple-free-buttocks-for-summer/">How to have a pimple-free buttocks for summer</a> =-. Oh WOW do I identify with this post – particularly that first example. I am the “computer person” for my office, and I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been asked to fix someone’s personal computer (as if it’s my HOBBY) and then told “Oh, we’ll fix you dinner!” Yes, because what I’m really lacking in my personal life are meals, certainly not time to myself!

I have managed to shrug people off when they’ve asked this of me, but I always feel irritated, and I know that many of them have thought that I am a horrible bitch for not helping them. Frankly, I don’t care. If they knew someone who was a good mechanic, they would go to the mechanic’s shop and then pay him/her for the work, even if the mechanic was a friend. They would never think to call him in the middle of the night and offer a meal in exchange for a new transmission.

I love being an introvert, but I hate that 75% of the world doesn’t seem to understand me, or care to try.
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]]> By: cb http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-1104 cb Sat, 06 Mar 2010 16:24:58 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-1104 Oh so refreshing - thank you Francis! Yep - let her call a pro and offer THEM a cake as payment. Oh so refreshing – thank you Francis! Yep – let her call a pro and offer THEM a cake as payment.

]]> By: Francis http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-1096 Francis Fri, 05 Mar 2010 22:43:48 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-1096 People suck. I HATE when people try and make an opportunity out of a request. I mean, have the balls to at least admit what this is. And as if your mother's cake is a substitute for money. Yes, people always think that us quieter folks are so friendly and will do anything, but it such a wrong assumption. Annoying. .-= Francis´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.thebestkitchenknives.com/chef-knife-sets.html">Chef Knife Sets</a> =-. People suck. I HATE when people try and make an opportunity out of a request. I mean, have the balls to at least admit what this is. And as if your mother’s cake is a substitute for money. Yes, people always think that us quieter folks are so friendly and will do anything, but it such a wrong assumption. Annoying.
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]]> By: Allie http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-1078 Allie Sat, 27 Feb 2010 01:12:04 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-1078 Lucky me. I don't have this problem. I have no trouble saying no and then saying nothing else. :) I am very protective of my solitude and reading time and time for sitting on the couch thinking. I am BUSY and if someone else thinks I do not look busy, I correct that impression in a hurry. I have pretty much zero interpersonal skills, too, so it's not like people seek me out. ;) Lucky me. I don’t have this problem. I have no trouble saying no and then saying nothing else. :) I am very protective of my solitude and reading time and time for sitting on the couch thinking. I am BUSY and if someone else thinks I do not look busy, I correct that impression in a hurry. I have pretty much zero interpersonal skills, too, so it’s not like people seek me out. ;)

]]> By: cb http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-401 cb Sun, 01 Nov 2009 02:43:30 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-401 Sounds like a plan, Sire! Thanks! :) Sounds like a plan, Sire! Thanks! :)

]]> By: Sire http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-400 Sire Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:42:25 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-400 Christie, if they persist, you have every right to be a little rude, and if they still persist, just smack em over the head. Maybe that will knock some sense into them. .-= Sire´s last blog ..<a href="http://wassupblog.com/how-to-turn-off-the-internet-on-the-iphone/">How To Turn Off The Internet On The iPhone</a> =-. Christie, if they persist, you have every right to be a little rude, and if they still persist, just smack em over the head. Maybe that will knock some sense into them.
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]]> By: cb http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-398 cb Sat, 31 Oct 2009 12:06:02 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-398 Hi Sire, Yep this is really the biggest thing I need to work on. I can usually say no once, and then if the person has any sensitivity about them that is enough. But when someone persists, I feel a powerful resentment that almost makes it impossible for me to say no in a pleasant, calm way and still want to be around that person. One thing I have to remember is that some people just don't have as much empathy as others and may not have bad intentions at all. After all, I wouldn't get mad at a dog for continuing to push his head toward my dinner - I'd just take care that he wouldn't be successful. Thanks for your comment - and please keep coming back to IntrovertZone! Hi Sire, Yep this is really the biggest thing I need to work on. I can usually say no once, and then if the person has any sensitivity about them that is enough. But when someone persists, I feel a powerful resentment that almost makes it impossible for me to say no in a pleasant, calm way and still want to be around that person.

One thing I have to remember is that some people just don’t have as much empathy as others and may not have bad intentions at all. After all, I wouldn’t get mad at a dog for continuing to push his head toward my dinner – I’d just take care that he wouldn’t be successful.

Thanks for your comment – and please keep coming back to IntrovertZone!

]]> By: Sire http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-395 Sire Fri, 30 Oct 2009 22:11:11 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-395 I used to be a bit like that, but not to the extent I let it bother me. I used to go out of my way to help, until I found they were taking advantage of my good nature. Now, if I feel that they're just trying to use me I just say no. That first guy is a total loser and should be helping his own mother. You know, it's OK to say no, and that your sorry but you just haven't the time, because you have your own kids and life to look after. .-= Sire´s last blog ..<a href="http://wassupblog.com/googles-latest-pr-update-in-time-for-halloween/">Googles Latest PR Update In Time For Halloween</a> =-. I used to be a bit like that, but not to the extent I let it bother me. I used to go out of my way to help, until I found they were taking advantage of my good nature. Now, if I feel that they’re just trying to use me I just say no.

That first guy is a total loser and should be helping his own mother. You know, it’s OK to say no, and that your sorry but you just haven’t the time, because you have your own kids and life to look after.
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]]> By: cb http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-376 cb Mon, 26 Oct 2009 01:16:21 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-376 Hey Bella - please have a look at the new post http://introvertzone.com/introvert-does-not-equal-doormat . I made a suggestion and I'm asking the others to offer theirs too. Hey Bella – please have a look at the new post http://introvertzone.com/introvert-does-not-equal-doormat . I made a suggestion and I’m asking the others to offer theirs too.

]]> By: Bella http://introvertzone.com/asking-an-introvert-for-an-outrageous-favor-may-make-him-hate-you/comment-page-1#comment-366 Bella Sat, 24 Oct 2009 12:15:26 +0000 http://introvertzone.com/?p=95#comment-366 Argh! So yesterday my sister was pushing me for an update on how her cats were doing, via email, and I told her a funny story about one of them named Monkey. And then added a paragraph that said, "I'm glad I could help you out but I think I will have to bow out of future catsitting of any duration...it's a crazy amount of driving." (Did not add "nearly 400 miles.") And she replied, "Silly Monkey!" Gah! Not one word to acknowledge my statement...and I'm supposed to go to a concert with her next week. I really do not want to do that. Advice? Argh! So yesterday my sister was pushing me for an update on how her cats were doing, via email, and I told her a funny story about one of them named Monkey. And then added a paragraph that said, “I’m glad I could help you out but I think I will have to bow out of future catsitting of any duration…it’s a crazy amount of driving.” (Did not add “nearly 400 miles.”)

And she replied, “Silly Monkey!”

Gah! Not one word to acknowledge my statement…and I’m supposed to go to a concert with her next week. I really do not want to do that. Advice?

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