An introvert sent me a message asking, “How do you explain being introvert to people? I’d like to try explain why I tend to be different in a large group of people compared to when its just me and him.”
What a great question. I told her that when I was in college I was actually dumped by a guy who had seemed quite crazy about me for a couple of weeks, until we’d gone on an outing with his huge group of friends. His explanation? “You were so quiet around my friends, but when it was just you and me you were so funny and vivacious!”
At the time, I had no idea about introvert-extrovert, so I felt like a big loser, like I had done something wrong. Why did I not “bring my A game” when going out with him and his friends? I’d actually originally thought I did just fine, talking to those of his friends who were approachable, but somehow it just wasn’t enough. If he’d known what an introvert was, would that have helped? Maybe not, in our case, but the introvert who asked the question would like to explain it to others.
How do you explain introversion to others in your life – coworkers, friends, family, partners?
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