One successful introvert’s solution to social anxiety

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This is a review of Social Strategies, a product developed by Jon Mercer. Jon is a successful, happy introvert who started with a tough childhood. That childhood caused him to have pretty severe social problems, shyness and anxiety, by the time he was a teenager. First he tried hiding his problem, then later many different therapists, and even medication. He was on antidepressants for six years, but they didn’t solve the problems he was having and he finally got off of the drugs. He’d majored in psychology in college trying to find an answer to his problem, and over the years he collected a huge library of references and ideas about anxiety problems. Finally he realized for himself what would “starve” the anxiety and panic and designed a program for himself which conquered the anxiety and panic for good! His symptoms quickly disappeared.

The Social Strategies are a set of mental games which will start to teach your mind to take a more constructive approach in social situations and not short-circuit itself into anxiety and panic. They are enjoyable to do, and you can do them any time you’re around people. Jon gave me the Social Strategies product for review. It’s an instant download of .mp3 files, plus right now there are a couple of bonuses.

I’m usually one who prefers my self-help items to be books, so that I can look in the index and see quickly, “Here is your answer – top of page 53.” 🙂 I tend to be impatient, so I didn’t know if I’d like a set of eight .mp3s to play. I created a CD and decided to keep it in my car. I have a half hour commute each way to work, so I was able to listen to the CD on my way to and from work for a couple of days, repeating some of the games in order to catch fine points.

The experience was enjoyable, and I can certainly see how playing these games would help if someone had a real social anxiety problem. In my case, I usually just don’t go to events because I want as much “me-time” as I can get; I don’t have social anxiety. On the other hand, a game really did help one day when I was about to go meet some people for lunch – people I hadn’t seen in several years! At first I was doing my usual, “Is this what I want to wear? Have I gained weight? Does my hair look good?” etc., as if seeing these people after years would be a make-or-break event where my image would be burned into their memories forever. Instead, I tried one of the games. I listened to it on my way over there, and consciously told myself I’d be playing the game for the next hour. I did remember to do that, and I was very relaxed and able to pay attention to the people around me instead of to myself. And best of all, when I got back to my own office, I found that one of the women had posted on her Facebook page that she’d just had lunch with ME and really enjoyed the conversation!

Will Social Strategies work for you? I wish I could tell you that, but of course I have no way to know. I do think that a change in our thought process would surely be necessary in order to beat problems like this forever and not just cover them up temporarily. Check it out, and let me know what you think!

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    • Haha…I know what you mean. I wonder if introverts are more turned off by sales “landing” pages than extroverts are. Sales pages can be a bit annoying. It still beats having a real human come rushing out insisting we go for a test drive or something though. 😉

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  2. It is interesting to know about Jon Mercer and his life story.I am really interested in this strategies as this seems a good set of mental games.One of my friend has a serious anxiety problem and I think that this would be really helpful for her.

    • Hi – Yes, in my opinion it’s worth trying something that someone can do for themselves with no drugs, no risk. You’re a wonderful caring friend – and I hope your friend finds a great solution that works for her!

  3. Jon Mercer seems really a positive and happy person towards life.After reading his story I can say that he is like a good example for each and every introvert person and this ‘Social Strategies’ will be definitely helpful for all who have anxiety problem.

  4. Being an introvert person it seems the Social strategies game would work for me too. Ur experience of how u cud handle the peopleduring lunch out with the help of game arises new hope for living in a better way.

  5. What a great post, i am interested in trying out this system myself. It doesn’t sound like I have such a major problem, thanks for sharing, keep up good work.
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  6. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you have to be shy and unsociable. I believe your guide proves exactly that. I have a lot of introverted friends (I only know they are introverted because I know them really well and for a long time) that are and look very sociable.

    Introverts are the best at emotions and one-on-one discussions, it’s a lot easier for them to really connect to the one they’re interacting with. An extrovert is better with social groups in general, but lacks the introvert’s one-on-one interaction skill.
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  7. I am really hurting. I am not just talking about introversion, I am talking about social anxiety or aocial paranois, or both (borderline) I no there are no quick fixes out there, but social situations are incomprehansibly terrifying and I just almost loose it, or want to hide. I am an older man and would be grateful for any suggestion. I may be on a different page, in which case, forgive me.

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